Post # 1
SO and I are not expecting, but we were talking about this earlier. I am wondering who was at the hospital (or other location) when you gave birth.
I was saying that unless the baby is already born, I don’t think I would want anyone except SO there. I would feel awful knowing that people were waiting on me for hours while I was in labor. I don’t see a point of people being there if I would want to spend alone time with the baby anyways.
His whole family waits around when a baby is being born. For his sister, his family waited for HOURS while she was in labor.
Who was there for you? Did you want family to be there?
Post # 2
My husband. I wouldn’t want anyone else there, TBH. It’s a pretty intense experience and you have no idea how it’s going to go – a lot of people coming in and out of the room would suck, IMO.
We called after our daughter was born to let everyone know that everything went well. They didn’t even know I was in labor, which was how I wanted it. We also took a few hours to ourselves before we allowed visitors.
If you don’t want people waiting outside, don’t tell them you’re in labor. Just take all the time you need, and call when you’re ready. It’s a medical procedure, and a pretty major one at that.
Post # 3
Only my husband was in the room. I’m a very private person, so I wanted as little people as possible in the room. For family that couldn’t wait, they were in the waiting room. I’m happy that I handled it way i did, because every one and their brother had their hands in my vag every hour pretty much until I gave birth. I was labor for 16 hours. Also, most of my family are male so I think it would have been really awkward if had been there. At least I didn’t have to worry about hurting anybody’s feelings . Plus it was so wonderful having those first few moments of my daughters life just to ourselves.
Post # 4
I’m currently 12 weeks pregnant but when baby comes it’ll just be my Darling Husband at the hospital. I don’t like the idea of knowing people are waiting and possibly feeling pressure from that. The hospital where I’m delivering also doesn’t allow visitors for the first 2 hours to let parents bond with the baby so they’d have to wait even after the baby is born.
Post # 5
There was a thread just like this a few weeks ago if you wanna search for it! I’m the minority by far. I had Darling Husband, sister, MOther and Mother-In-Law in the room. It was amazing. We are a really close family.
Post # 6
I had planned on Darling Husband and my mom. But I went into labour, and progressed too fast to make it to the hospital, so it was: Darling Husband, my mom, my BFF, 6 EMTS, my MW and her student…and our dog.
Post # 7
akm57 : Husband only in the delivery room. No one else was allowed in for several hours after the birth, after I’d at least had a sleep and some time alone with baby. Fortunately my hospital (here in Australia) had pretty strict visiting times for the maternity ward (only certain times in afternoon and evening).
Extended family rushing in straight after the baby is born is what you usually see on TV, but impractical in real life. Who wants visitors when they’re in pain, exhausted, emotional and looking a complete mess?
Post # 8
Only Darling Husband was in the delivery room with me, and he didn’t call to let anyone else know until after the baby was born. I wouldn’t want anyone else in the room with me, and I would feel weird if people were at the hospital waiting.
Post # 9
My husband and a doula for support. Absolutely no one else, being that my mom was terminally ill. My dad didn’t want to be there anyway. My Mother-In-Law expected to be there. Too bad, this was a medical procedure with my privates showing, I wasn’t going to let someone be there who cannot keep her mouth shut and insists on saying mean things. As it turns out, she came to the hospital 2 days later and upset me. We eventually have lost contact so she doesn’t even know about my second child. I deserve a little happiness in life, and I got tired of otherwise happy events (like my wedding, showers and the birth of my first child) turning into drama and hurt. I don’t expect anyone to fall all over me but who insults a woman who just gave birth??
Post # 10
Only my husband in the delivery room, and only my father and brother visited after delivery. We lived four hours away from all friends and family, so that was a plus. My dad actually hopped in the car and headed straight for our hospital and drove all four hours and soon as he got word that we were there. My aunt and grandmaw visited the next day, and that was it! It was actually really nice to not have to deal with all the chaos of a ton of people crowding in my hospital room.
Post # 11
I’m 34 weeks but when it’s time I am only going to have my Darling Husband and Doula.
Post # 12
We had my parents and DH’s parents there with us. My labor was 33 hours and the first 21 we were trying to prevent as our girls were early so it was a potent combo of stress and boredom, I was happy to have the company. Also we knew our girls would go to the NICU after birth so I didn’t have any intimate baby bonding to look forward to.
Post # 13
My FH and I have discussed this some because several of our friends and family have had babies in recent times, and I swear, it’s like they want to have a germ-fest intro party for the baby. We do not attend said parties.
I will plan to have Husband, mother, and mother in law present. My mother is a pediatrician, so of course I want her there. And my mother in law is in the medical field as well so she fits the scenario. And I have a pretty decent relationship with her so she won’t be getting on my laboring nerves.
Post # 14
I have been thinking about this recently, even though I’m not even pregnant!
I think I would have my Darling Husband & possibly my mum. But no one else.
Post # 15
I have pretty quick labors, so if people wanted to wait in the waiting room it’s fine by me- but only Darling Husband can be there when I’m pushing. With my last baby, my mom had brought my older daughter (8 at the time) to see me once I was hooked up with my epidural. She took her to the cafeteria for lunch and they came back and met her baby sister.