Post # 62
@geekspice: TBH I would be unable to be friends with someone like this. Not because she’s fat, because I have plenty of fat friends. Some of them are down with being fat; some of them aren’t, but they don’t bitch about it all the time. It’s the constant bitching and moaning I can’t stand. Either eat the doughnut or don’t, but please stop acting like a victim of the fucking doughnut.
I totally hear you! What the hell kind of shape does she think she’ll have? She eats heavy italian food all the damn time and polishes off bags of chocolate all the time! She seems to think buying individual candies helps, and it can help with portion control, but not if you eat the whole damn thing! It’s gonna be awkward since we have friends in common but I am seriously done with her crap. Woe is me, woe is me! Blah Blah.
Post # 63
@bunnyharriet: You’re not wrong. She’s nuts.
Post # 64
@SoupyCat: I agree, she’s nuts. But I definitely need to learn to deal with shit like this better. I ruminate on crap like you wouldn’t believe. Grrrrr. She really friggin’ pissed me off.
@echolove: I can’t believe the poll results are in favor of letting it go. It’s annoying when someone wants help and asked for it, but get offended when you’re honest with them. It’s not like you said, ” You’re fat! You shouldn’t be thinking About those kinds of food. ” That’s blunt honesty, which can be rude. But I feel you should be honest with your friends and not have to sugar coat anything. What’s the point of wanting help if you can’t take criticism for it. And it’s true. Instead of thinking and pouting about all the things she can’t eat, she should focus on the good, healthy food she can eat to be healthy. When you hear someone complaining about something and then mope about it, it’s annoying when they do nothing about it but complain. I would confront her and if she doesn’t like it, then tell her to never talk about her weight to you if she’s not going to do anything about it.
Thank you! Don’t we all have things we’re sensitive about? Haven’t we all been offended? I have never reacted like she did! I felt like a stupi dlittle kid being yelled at. The fact that she asked for my damn advice makes her reaction even more outrageous. I would never make another person feel so stupid and awkward, especially if I had asked for their advice!
Post # 65
I think you’re better off without her in your life. She sounds like a miserable, bitchy person. She’s jealous that you’re thin, so has to criticize everything else about you.
Since she was also stupid enough to do what she did while driving, she shouldn’t be on the road if she can’t get better control of her emotions.
Post # 66
@strawbabies: I am definitely better off without her. Btw, she is such a shitty driver. She slows to a stop at every green light (well, like half of them). Then she realizes what she did and says, “oops! Why did I do that?” Umm, because you’re an idiot and do that all time. She sways over the middle line too. She also honks at people who don’t stop at yield signs and just drive right through. I tried to tell her you don’t have to stop at a yield sign. If it’s safe you can go right through. But she lays on the horn with this triumphant look on her face. She is an idiot. Glad to be shot of her.
Post # 67
It sounds like she does not want your advice at all and I’d be steering well clear of the topic. Even if she literally throws herself in front of you and begs for weight loss advice I’d go “Have you considered discussing this with your doctor?”.
Yes, it might be a touchy issue for her but that doesn’t excuse her going off on you AND continuing the bitchiness in a text message. If I’d overreacted like that, you’d better believe I’d be on the phone to my friend apologising and saying “I value your advice, I was just having a shocking day” or something.
Post # 68
It sounds like you do not like this girl anyways & the friendship is over. Oh well, lesson learned.
Post # 69
I would just never bring it up again. My 16-year-old niece is severly overweight. She has asked everyone for help in losing it and has said over and over that she wants to be healthy. However, everytime I see her she is eating junk, chinese food, doughnuts, etc. If anyone, including her mother, makes a comment about it she gets really emotional and down about herself. She has been bullied severely at school and as a result has gotten deeply depressed, so everyone is scared to mention the issue. She does go to a therapist, but she never commits herself to losing the weight.
Its different because she is still a child, but I think that an overweight person has to really get to the point of being fully dedicated before they will ever lose anything. It doesn’t matter what you, her doctor, her family says. Until she fully commits herself to the goal it will just be a never ending cycle. That being said, I don’t think your friend has an excuse for behaving that way at all. Shes obviously stressed from the deprivation, but good grief!