(Closed) Who "wears the pants" in your relationship?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who "wears the Pants" in your relationship?

    I do

    He does

    Its sorta 50/50

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee

    Eh it’s 50/50 or like 60/40 leaning towards me.

    Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Fiance is pretty opinionated and generally makes most of the decisions. I like my stereotypical female tasks (cooking, laundry ect.). I make more money than him right now though 😛

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Absolutely, 100% DH.  This drives my Mom and Sister nuts, because they both rule the roosts in their home, but that just doesn’t work for us.  We talk about major decisions, and if we  can’t come to a compromise, whoever the issue is more important to gets the deciding vote.

    It’s important to say here, that if I’m like “I want to eat at Applebee’s”, he’s not “No, we’re eating Chinese.”  It’s more like, he insists that I tell him where I am, and when I’m home.  Again, this isn’t so he can be like, “No, don’t go to the mall”, it’s just because he worries.  So I’ll text “Hey, at the mall, need anything?”  Then when I get home, I’ll say “We’re home.”  

    I control the money.  I choose the doctors, and buy groceries, and make appointments for the pets.  I have as much freedom as I’d like.  So if he wants me to tell him when I’m out of the house, and how much money I spent so he can have that information, it’s no skin off my nose.

     

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee

    As much as I’d love to say that it is 50/50 here, I think I wear the pants. He just isn’t as opinionated as I am on most things, especially when trying to figure out where to go on a date (he’s just happy that we will be together, and so am I, but someone has to make a decision!).

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I WISH it were 50/50….or even 75/25.  However, it’s 100% me and he’d definitely agree.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    He wears the pants but I control the zipper. Lol I voted he does… but its pretty much 75% him 25% me. I don’t WANT to wear the pants. I’m too indecisive for that. He just cares more then me most of the time. He’ll say he wears the pants but i always get my way. lol

    Post # 24
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I do! As me and a girlfriend used to say, “I look good in the pants!”

    It works well for us. Fiance is very laid back and the exact kind of person I need. 

    Post # 25
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I do, 100%. Even when I’m ill, nothing happens without me having to tell him exactly what to do. 

    He does do the washing though and the washing up (when reminded).

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My husband is pretty laid back, so I generally make all the “unimportant” decisions myself (i.e. what we eat, how the house is decorated/organized, what we give as gifts for events, etc). For big decisions, we discuss them equally, though he usually lets me “win” if it’s something he doesn’t have a strong opinion about. When he does have a strong opinion about something, I try to let him have his way, since it must be really important to him.

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    My Fiance is waay more decisive than me, so I would say my FI! 😀

    Post # 28
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @MrsWrangler:  LOL Yeah, this is my Fiance. Isn’t it a pain?

    Post # 29
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    Worker bee

    SO deffitnatley contols 90% of our lives. I’m happy with that at minute because I am out of work and he is financially supporting us. The only thing I get to decide is what I cook for tea. When I was working (and hopefully my job applications will prove to be working soon) it was more 75% him. It only really annoyes me if,  I spend ALL day cleaning the lounge and I rearange it, he will come home and say “No” and move it back. My piont is “Why the hell do you get the over ruling hand?” He doesn’t get it. He openly admits he was a spoilt brat as a child. I’m in the process of trying to stamp that attitude out of him.
    I am better with money than he is but I can’t rule it if I am not earning at this time.

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It’s 50/50 for us.  We are equals.  No one is in “charge”.

    Post # 31
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It’s actually a constant power struggle between the two of us.  We’re both lawyers.  And I’m a very strong-minded independant woman and proud of it.  He says I’m “alpha,” but I kind of take offense to that, because I know he doesn’t mean it in a positive way.  Sometimes, I will let him have his way and say that I’m just supporting him.  On other things, I have to put my foot down.  And oftentimes it turns into a fight.  He also has the tendency to say something to me and just do what he wants anyway, which turns into another fight.  And then an apology when he realizes I was right and he was wrong all along.  It’s really a struggle, but I would say in the end we’re 50/50. 

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