(Closed) Who "wears the pants" in your relationship?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who "wears the Pants" in your relationship?

    I do

    He does

    Its sorta 50/50

  • Post # 47
    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    hmm im not sure. i’m definitly the planner of our family so i make all the plans but if there is something he feels strongly about then i let him have the final decision. its nice sometimes to feel like hes the man and the big boss.

    Post # 48
    299 posts
    Helper bee

    In most situations we are 50/50 but my SO has a serious case of OCD (no joke) and when it comes to the way things are organized he is 100% in charge.

    Post # 49
    1094 posts
    Bumble bee

    He definately does. But it’s more because he has a type A peronality and i’m more laid back and easy going. However, at the end of the day he would never undermine me in our relationship. I control some things while he controls others, but it’s not 50/50, more like 20/80.

    Post # 50
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It’s very very 50/50

    Post # 51
    544 posts
    Busy bee

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    @ScenicRoute:  YES! Same with my SO. He is laid back until his OCD kicks in, then everything has to be his way. He’s good hearted about it though.

    Post # 52
    5091 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I think we’re pretty even, actually.  He definitely rules when it comes to smaller things, but I tend to take over on larger things.  We definitely discuss stuff before making any big decisions.

    Post # 53
    3460 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m the planner, doer, and organizer.  He admits he’s a procrastinator and lazy.  So, I make a lot of the day-to-day decisions, but if he has an objection, he’ll definitely let me know.  (Veto rights over the zipper!)  I think of it as rock & water.  I may be the water, but if he has an opinion, it’s not changing in any reasonable time frame.  I have gotten him to see that it is annoying to ask if he cares about something (no), do a bunch of work on the apartment, such as integrating our stuff together, only to have him decide he doesn’t like it and not offer a suggestion/help in return, so he now tries harder to proactively let me know what he thinks or to work with the change. 

    We make big decisions together.

    Post # 54
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We like to think of it as he wears the pants, I just pick the pants out. 😉

    Post # 55
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I voted 50/50. As far as I’m concerned, we both have a leg in the “pants” of our relationship. It works very well for us.

    Post # 56
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    He may think he does; but I DO!

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