Post # 47
hmm im not sure. i’m definitly the planner of our family so i make all the plans but if there is something he feels strongly about then i let him have the final decision. its nice sometimes to feel like hes the man and the big boss.
Post # 48
In most situations we are 50/50 but my SO has a serious case of OCD (no joke) and when it comes to the way things are organized he is 100% in charge.
Post # 49
He definately does. But it’s more because he has a type A peronality and i’m more laid back and easy going. However, at the end of the day he would never undermine me in our relationship. I control some things while he controls others, but it’s not 50/50, more like 20/80.
Post # 51
YES! Same with my SO. He is laid back until his OCD kicks in, then everything has to be his way. He’s good hearted about it though.
Post # 52
I think we’re pretty even, actually. He definitely rules when it comes to smaller things, but I tend to take over on larger things. We definitely discuss stuff before making any big decisions.
Post # 53
I’m the planner, doer, and organizer. He admits he’s a procrastinator and lazy. So, I make a lot of the day-to-day decisions, but if he has an objection, he’ll definitely let me know. (Veto rights over the zipper!) I think of it as rock & water. I may be the water, but if he has an opinion, it’s not changing in any reasonable time frame. I have gotten him to see that it is annoying to ask if he cares about something (no), do a bunch of work on the apartment, such as integrating our stuff together, only to have him decide he doesn’t like it and not offer a suggestion/help in return, so he now tries harder to proactively let me know what he thinks or to work with the change.
We make big decisions together.
Post # 54
We like to think of it as he wears the pants, I just pick the pants out. 😉
Post # 55
I voted 50/50. As far as I’m concerned, we both have a leg in the “pants” of our relationship. It works very well for us.
Post # 56
He may think he does; but I DO!