Post # 77
My husband. That’s it. I don’t think I even want anyone at the hospital. My own mother is out of the question. She’s the type to grab the baby as soon as it comes out, record the vital signs, cut the cord herself, take it aside and have a little private conversation with it and THEN hand it over to me, just to be able to say that she controlled the whole situation. Also, she’s a doctor and has always showed her backside (criticizing the staff, not allowing them to get a medical history, but instead just telling them my entire history from memoryanytime I’m in a hospital for any reason. We will maybe starting trying in 2-3 years. Most likely, I will choose to give birth in the US, but I don’t have a preference for delivering near where my family lives.
Post # 78
Just my husband aside from the doula, midwife, etc.
Post # 80
I am not pregnant, but when I am I think that I would like to have Fiance, my mom, and my sister. Fiance wants his mom in there but im not sure she would really want to be in there. I am very close to my mom and i cant imagine her not being in there. As for my sister, we are very close to. Im not sure if Fiance would want her in there so i guess that is to be decided!
Post # 81
Not pregnant yet, but I want only Darling Husband and necessary medical staff there. I’m not that close to either my mom or Mother-In-Law. I couldn’t even imagine having either of them there.
Post # 82
I had Darling Husband, our midwife and a student midwife for both births. One in a hospital and one at home.
I know my mom really wanted to be there and while we have a great relationship I just know that because she’s really assertive and my Darling Husband is super passive she would just take over and he would get lost in the excitement.
She was actually going to be our backup person for the homebirth if Dear Daughter needed some extra attention but she was out of town so that didn’t happen.
Post # 83
@Bazinga: We’re not even engaged, but the other night at a friend’s house we were talking about babies and births and breastfeeding, and I told my friend I want a home birth, and my SO said he thinks its a great idea and really supports the idea of home births. So it will be just me and him…. when it happens
Post # 84
Not planning on kids anytime soon, but Fiance and I have agreed with it only being us and a doula, aside from the medical staff. I’m not close with my family and I think (at least with our first baby) that we should experience the moment we become our own family with just each other.
Post # 85
I am only okay with having my SO and any necessary medical professionals in the room when I deliver.