Post # 1
Have you thought about who will be in the delivery room with you?
Im leaning towards my mom being in there (DH of course!) but I want DH to make the final call on that. I wouldn’t want her to be in there if he was uncomfortable with it or if he preferred it just be the two of us. We agreed years before we were even TTC that his mom wouldn’t be in the delivery room. I highly doubt she would ask to be though. She’s the best MIL ever, love her very very much and would love for her to be in the waiting room… I just don’t want her in there when I’m pushing and stuff. Im too much of a prude for that!
Post # 3
DH only. Even if my mom were still alive, it would still just be DH in the room.
Post # 4
We aren’t pregnant yet but I know my husband will be with me, obviously, and until she stresses me out (which probably wont take long) my mom will be there too. I want her support but I also know how easily we can stress eachother out in already stressful situations so, we will see. Now, before I start pushing, as long as Mr. Hedgie is there, I don’t care who comes in and out. Heck, I would love to see a bunch of different people! It would help take my mind off pain.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
My mom and his mom will probably want to be there. Honestly, he just isn’t interested in being in the room and in most non-Western cultures the father isn’t in the room so it really doesn’t bother me that he would prefer to not be in the room. He may change his mind as time goes on but I will go into it assuming that it will be just me and the moms with him occasionally popping in.
I did put my foot down on him going out of town on a trip around my due date; he heard a friend’s dad was always on a hunting trip when his wife gave birth. I told him that his wife probably received BIG JOO-REY (jewelry) as a reward for him skipping out on the births and there is no way he could afford to buy me big enough joo-rey to make up for not being there at all.
Post # 6
My husband and I have discussed this in detail and determined that we only want to have him in the room when I’m actually delivering. I’m okay with my parents and his visiting up until the actual pushing starts but once we’re to that phase, I think I want it to be more of a private thing between my husband and me. Plus, I’ve read way too many stories about Moms and Mother-in-laws going crazy once the baby is delivered (and sometimes during delivery) and really want to avoid that at all costs. 😛
Post # 8
DH and my mom only. I don’t mind if other people are in the room during labor, but only those two during the actual delivery. I’m pretty sure my MIL will throw a fit about it though. She already made some comment when we went dress shopping about how I shouldn’t be shy, because “she’ll be in there holding up a leg when I deliver her grandbaby.” Ummmm no. Just no.
Post # 9
SO and my mom were in there, no one else. SO wanted his mom but we dont get along and she never asked me so i was DEADSET against having her there.
Post # 10
Yeah. Only DH! I don’t think I want any visitors at all until after we are in our Family Suite. I cannot imagine having my mother there! You all are lucky to have mums you can be close to. Oh yeah, and mine lives across the country.
Post # 11
Only my husband and medical professionals.
Post # 12
MrDane definitely, and possibly my sister. NO PARENTS!
Post # 13
Only DH. I don’t care who whines and complains, you’re not coming through that door!
Post # 14
DH and my mom, for as long as she lasts without making me go INSANE : )
Post # 15
Only my husband. My mom didn’t even want to be – she said this is something that the two of us need to experience by ourselves. I’m sure the waiting room will be filled with family (both wanted and unwanted. LOL)
Post # 16
Probably just my husband. My mom is a nurse and knows a lot about these kinds of things but sometimes it can be a little much. Like, I know she would want to be double-checking everything the team did and telling me to ask for this and ask for that and asking me did they do this and they should do that and even though she’s probably right about all that stuff, it’s not what I want to be preoccupied with at that point. Like, I just want to trust my doctors and nurses and not have to watch my own back. This probably makes no sense but after every appointment I’ve ever had that wasn’t at her clinic she’s like what did they test? Hemoglobin but not ferritin? What about thyroid? Factor-K clotting? Did you ask about XYZ? And I’m like AHHHHHH! I seriously get stressed just thinking about it. I know it’ll break her heart but if she can’t turn off nurse mode and just be a mom, I won’t be able to handle it.