(Closed) Who will be walking you down the aisle…????

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll:
    Have Grandpa walk me down : (39 votes)
    60 %
    Have my Father walk me down : (22 votes)
    34 %
    Have them both walk me down : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    In your case, I would just walk with the grandpa. I feel like the person who walks with you should be someone who has been a huge part of your life (in a positive way). I’m actually going to be walking alone. My father passed away and I don’t have any other male relatives I feel close to. 

    Post # 4
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    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Yeah I would definitely go with your grandpa! He is the one who has supported you and loved you your whole life and don’t you want that same support and love with you when you walk down the aisle? Your grandpa deserves to walk you down the aisle 🙂 Your dad lost that privelage when he decided he didn’t want to support you or show up for any important events in your life.

    Post # 5
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My dad wasnt in my life either. And really hasnt been at all for my WHOLE life. So i was thinking of having my grandpa walk me down. THEN i started thinking, ya know… i raised myself for a lot of my life. and I think i want to walk down alone… just me, head held high. THEN i realized that my mom (whom did raise me, but was gone a lot) got really upset when i hadnt asked her yet. SO – long story short (medium length.:p) My mom will be walking me down and my father is NOT invited.

    Good Luck

    Post # 7
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    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I agree with PPs, go with your grandpa alone. If your dad walked out and moved away to avoid his parental obligations, he doesn’t get to exercise the benefits or ‘rightful duties’ that he wants. Do waht you want, and if that’s walking with your grandpa who raised you, don’t think twice about it. *hugs* 

    eta-@MeganTacky2247: I’m in the exact same boat. Don’t know if it will be me alone, me with mom, or one special family friend of ours. Thanks for sharing what you did.

    Post # 8
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    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I feel like in your case, it should be your grandpa that walks you down the isle. If dad gives a stink about it being his rightful duty, tell him it was his “rightful duty” to be there for you as you were growing up. Gpa, Sounds like he WAS your Dad as you were growing up, and so he should walk you down.

    Your poll and Title are different, I almsot clicked dad, untill i read the actual question on top of the poll….

    Post # 9
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    2947 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I’d have your grandpa walk you down the aisle if it were me. 🙂 I’m biased because my dad also abandoned me to avoid child support, but since your grandpa has been such a big part of your life, I’m sure it would mean a lot more to him.

    Post # 10
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    78 posts
    Worker bee

    I’m planning on having both my parents (mom&dad) walk me down.  

    @Bichon Frise:  A friend of mine had a similar experience, though her dad passed about 10 days before the wedding.  Her mom walked her down the aisle.  

    Post # 11
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    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @June232012: He passed away 7 years ago, so I’ve had time to cope and accept it. I don’t think I’ll do anything for his memory, because I don’t want to bring any sadness to my wedding day. Plus, even though he was my father, he didn’t raise me. 

    Post # 12
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    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @pokey_dc: That would be a good idea, but in my case it would be my grandma. I was raised by her, since my mother wasn’t part of my life. The problem I have with walking with her is that I know she would be crying nonstop the whole way down the aisle. I think that would make me feel a little uncomfortable. 

    Post # 13
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    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Neither I”m having my mother walk me down the aisle and my dad will be at the alter with my FI! My mother raised me so its only fair! 🙂

    Post # 14
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    746 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Maybe have your grampa and mom walk you down? I’m having my mom and dad walk me down the aisle. I think it should be the people who have supported you and raised you.

    Post # 15
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    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I definitely do not think that walking the bride down the aisle is owed to the father, especially if he was not in your life.  I like the idea of your grandpa and your mom walking you down the aisle!  Good Luck!

    Post # 16
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If I were you I would def ask my Grandfather & just him…I bet that would mean alot to him!

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