Post # 62
@PromiseRooster: Is that with the copper one or the mirena (hormone)? Because I have friends with both and the ones with the mirena don’t get cramps except for a bit after placement but the ones with copper do. The copper one isn’t on the table for allergy reasons.
(Right now I’m on NuvaRing and would not be adverse to continuing it. Either way, in 8-10 years I imagine that the BC products on the market will have changed some.)
Post # 63
Hm, we have not discussed this! Of course we’re still years away from even TTC, but I will bring it up this week when we speak next. Won’t that be a fun conversation for him. Ha.
Ideally after our last child I’d get the implant or IUD. At the end of its life, we’d discuss whether that really was the last child, and at that point I’d want him to get a V. I don’t want my tubes tied because it is so invasive.
Post # 64
I casually asked once if he would be willing to get a V and his reaction was “NO WAY IN HELL.” But it’s not something really done in his culture so it might be something he’ll change his mind on. Or maybe not. Either way, he’s compromised on lots of big stuff for me, so this is a battle I’m not inclined to fight. And when the time comes, we’ll see how done we feel (ie whether an accident would be ok or disaster) and how many fertile years I have left. Then we’ll talk about the options.
Post # 65
I got an IUD after my second daughter was born but my body ended up rejecting it. I had it removed and quickly got pregnant with my son. Before I even found out I was pregnant I ended things with my sons father…so I decided that since I was going to be a single mom I would be finished procreating after he was born haha. I went and had my tubes tied when he was 11 weeks old and ended up in that small percentile of women who experience complications. It caused my ovaries to over produce hormones and I had giant tumors all over my uterus which were extremely painful and made me useless. It got to the point where I DIDN’T have my period for only one week per month. Not fun. I went back to the dr and ended up having to get a hysterectomy a week and a half after my sons first birthday. The next day the dr came to see me in the hospital and said he couldn’t believe the size of the tumors that had only started 8/9 months prior. My uterus was enlarged to the size of a woman who was 5 months pregnant and majority of these tumors were softball size. Ew. If I were in a different position I would have encouraged my partner to go for a vasectomy. It’s so less invasive and you don’t run a risk of having to go for major surgery due to complications. I never thought that what happened to me was even possible since a tubaligation is such a common procedure. On the plus side, I haven’t had to buy a tampon since 2010 lol
Post # 66
I haven’t really thought about this…..probably because it took A LOT for us to get pregnant (we didn’t think we could), so I’ve been relishing in the fact that we are actually having a baby for the last 8 months!! Being that we are a little older (me 37, him 43…also with a 20 something child), we don’t want to push the envelope. I figure this will be our only one, but what ever happens, happens! 🙂