(Closed) Who wore white to your wedding?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Whohoo @Janna19 !!!  ๐Ÿ™‚  I do agree that an all-white outfit is a bit over the top, but then what do you do about the people who wear all black?  Should we be upset since this is a wedding and not a funeral?  Some people (like the 19-20yo Girlfriend @naangel55 mentioned) just arent aware, others just slip, and the ones who mean it – well, you weren’t changing them before and chances of changing them for your one day is slim (even though it WOULD be nice!). 

The best we can do is hope it won’t happen (and do a grassroots effort with our close friends/family to spread the word if it bothers you that much)….and if it happen then it does.  You are marrying the man you love – are you going to let this ruin one of the best days of your life?

Post # 63
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174 posts
Blushing bee

I’m encouraging people to wear white at my wedding if they so desire ๐Ÿ™‚ In fact, I’d be tickled if someone wore a white gown! I’m in black and hot pink, and I’d be equally tickled to see someone in that color scheme too ๐Ÿ˜€ How fun! I personally think it’s a silly thing to get offended about! Why should you be the only one claiming white that day? Everyone knows you’re the bride, stop worrying about any extra attention being skirted away from you- you’re bound to have gotten enough by then! It’s such a childish thing for people to get their panties in a twist over. I put this in the category of the bridal me-me-me-me-me’s, totally self-entitled category- though I’m sure this is a terribly unpopular perspective, of course! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 64
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Well, my dear mother in law wore white.all.over. I was on fire even though my dress was pale blue, I just kept thinking she is declaring me the war.. But since then, 9 years now, she’s been like a mother to me and my kids, buuuut she didn’t go in white to her daughter’s wedding so I’m still confused..

Post # 65
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Newbee

Ok guys, I had to go anonymous for this one because….I once wore a white dress to a wedding. I have no excuse, but I really just did not even think!

Ok, here are the excuses: it was a encore bride…wait, wait, don’t hate me!!! It was FI’s friend’s mom, probably in her late 50s, early 60s…so I didn’t even think she was going to be wearing white. She and her now husband had been living together for like 10 years. And I had nothing to wear, and my friend and I were shopping and shopping and I finally found a cute, semi casual sundress to wear. And it literally did not dawn on me that it was white until like several weeks after the fact!! And, honestly, I had only previously been to like 2 weddings…so that “no white at a wedding” rule was not ingrained into my head.

BUT, there was no confusing me with the bride. She wore a very traditional, princessy wedding gown to the floor; no confusing that with my to-the-knee, sundress….promise!

And I believe she got her revenge, because we got our thankyou card for her very expensive registry gift (her new husband is loaded by the way, and they registered for super expensive stuff) OVER a year later, addressed only to my Fiance. In the card she admitted that it took her so long to write the card because she forget my name. Um…ask your son!!

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wouldn’t mind a white button up shirt or something along those lines, but these long white gowns a few of you have mentioned???? geeeeeeeez

I would hope no one would do that on purpose, so I guess I would just be horribly embarassed for them not knowing any better. But even if you don’t know the rule…well, it just seems like you should be born knowing not to wear a long white gown to someone’s wedding!

Post # 67
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I get the rule about guest wearing white, but what about black??? I see a ton of weddings with bridesmaid in black. I wore black to one of my best friend’s wedding and so did one of my other friend. The bride wasn’t wearing an all-white dress but her sister did!!

Post # 68
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Helper bee

Huh.  Other than the wedding party and my mom, I didn’t even notice who wore what to my wedding!  But let’s face it, Auntie in the main pic is NOT going to get confused for being the bride so I wouldn’t see any reason to stress over it.

Post # 69
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Is it wrong to wear this dress to a wedding? I’m going with my Fiance to a wedding in March in Orlando and I would LOOOOOOVE to wear this but I don’t know if it is appropiate…..

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Post # 70
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212 posts
Helper bee

It’s not appropriate… but only because you’d look better than the bride!  Haha!!

Post # 71
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

hahaha Good one, thanks ;). This is a Dessy Bridemaids dress, they shouldn’t make dresses like this then! hehehee…..come one ladies I need more opinions =)

Post # 72
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

hmmm i think it’s great, especially if you pair it with a red sash and a great pair of red heels (or purple, fuschia, aqua)

Post # 73
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365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My cousin wore white, but I really didn’t care… It was a short sleeved to-the-knee dress, not very formal. I don’t see why it matters so much. Even if someone wears a floor length formal white gown they are only making themselves look like an idiot.

Post # 74
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2022

Two weddings’ stories:

I was Maid/Matron of Honor for a wedding were the groom’s teenage cousin turned up in a pink full-length satin gown. Pink wasn’t a wedding colour, but against everyone’s cocktail dresses and slacks, it looked like she was trying to make herself part of the bridal party.

Like one of the early posters on this thread, I wanted to wear anything BUT white to my wedding (I look horrible in it), so I chose a beautiful peacock blue. DH’s mom and aunt went shopping for outfits together with a list of ‘acceptable’ colours that I wrote at their request (they knew about the non-white thing). I was mortified to have the aunt turn up to the wedding in the same shade as me. Other guests in blue didn’t bother me (how could they have known?), but she’s in the family portrait and really stands out.

Gotta say, her dress looked better than the other family member who turned up in an ill-fitting ‘lingerie’ dress. Imagine a large woman wearing a short, revealing leopard-print satin dress with pink lace edging….

Post # 75
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564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

I didn’t even realize that a guest changed into a white dress for our reception until someone pointed it out on Weddingbee ๐Ÿ™‚ so no, it doesn’t bother me at all!

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

its a yell out for attention and i think its rude!! LIke DUH, only the bride wears white on her wedding day

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