(Closed) Who worries the most over money? You or your SO?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who worries most about money?
    My SO does most of the worrying! : (16 votes)
    21 %
    I do most of the worrying! : (39 votes)
    51 %
    We both get worried! : (21 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I wish we both had the worries but unfortunately its only me. I am sitting at my desk at work now with a pain in my side becuase of all the things that are left to do and pay for!!!  Maybe he does worry but he is not showing it

    Post # 4
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    695 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Yes, it’s all me! I am constantly thinking about how much we need to save to put down for a house and to furnish it let alone our wedding (trip to Vegas). He worries about things but for some reason not as much as I do and therefore never wants to talk about it. It is frustrating when you are on 2 different wavelengths about money!

    Post # 5
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    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I don’t know that I actually worry more than he does, but I am more likely to talk about financial concerns than he is.

    Post # 6
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    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    We both worry, but my husband worries more. I have a pretty good policy that keeps me sane – if I know I don’t have the money, I don’t spend it. But, it’s good to have someone who is that careful about money as then the chances of catching fraud is a lot higher!

    Post # 7
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    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    ME! I am forever freaking out about money . . . . we both have two jobs but because of health issues i have i tend to worry more because of all the supplies i need. He is more laid back and confident. . . man i wish i had some of that

     

    Post # 8
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    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    We both do a decent amount of worrying but thankfully it only gets out of control into full blown freak out once every couple of months. I have a respectable amount of debt from putting myself through grad school. Fiance is paying for his grad work as he goes, but the debt is starting to stack up on his credit card and he worries about paying it off monthly.

    We’re lucky though and we know it because our money worries usually extend as far as limiting the number of times we go out to eat – we haven’t reached a point where our lives are seriously impacted by lack of money (because of luck and smart choices).

    Post # 9
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    1078 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    Surprisingly, it’s me that does most of the worrying! Mr. PG is constantly reassuring me, saying "you only get to do this once! So make it worth it, no regrets."

    Post # 10
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    303 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I think we both freak out about money occasionally, but we have substantial savings and are very good about saving money from each paycheck. Sometimes he has a meltdown because he has his master’s degree and is not working a job that has anything to do with it and doesn’t pay very well, but it’s steady and he has the opportunity to work overtime occasionally, so it’s not a bad deal. I get a little freaked sometimes because I think about paying off my student loan debt in a few months, saving for a house, paying for the wedding ourselves…whew, it gets overwhelming. We’re good about calming each other down though. Thankfully our freakouts haven’t been on the same day so far!

    Post # 11
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    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I worry way more than he does.  He’s just a calmer kind of person, but he also doesn’t really plan things out either.  He usually calms me down after we talk things through.  I freak out when I think about combining my very reasonable law school debt with his undergrad debt.  It’s a very manageable number to people with jobs, but considering I currently have no income, I have a tough time imagining how to pay it back, eventually buy a house, and save for me being a stay-at-home mom for a few years once we eventually have kids.  Oh well — it will work out if we are good stewards of our money.  🙂  Good question though!

    Post # 13
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    796 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I definitely worry more. He thinks we’re in a good place, but I have absolutely no patience and get stressed out easily. So, while he thinks we’re making big enough payments on my credit card and saving enough for a future home each month, I always think "but I still have ____ to go!" or "we’ll never get to a 20% payment!!"

    Post # 14
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    1379 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I would say I’m definitely more atune to where our money is what our money level is and where are CC bill is at all the time. I am constantly looking online at our bank accounts to make sure everything is where it should be. But at the same time, he is very good with keeping things organized in regards to bill paying and everything else. So I guess we’re about even.

    Post # 15
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    He does! We are doing ok, paying our bills with a little extra. He’d just like to have a little more extra to be comfortable.

    Post # 16
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    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Oh he is the total worrier in our relationship and it just isn’t about money but everything in general. I am usually cool calm and collected so we will see how it is as the wedding draws nearer. But yeah he is always asking about little charges to the account to make sure they aren’t fraud. To his credit he does work for a bank so he works with money all the time.

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