(Closed) Who would rather have a c-section?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 137
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am not yet a mother, but I would like to have a vaginal birth; however, I may feel completely different when I am pregnant or in labor. In the end, all that matter is that mom and baby are healthy. 🙂

Post # 138
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@FloridaGatorBride:  This was similar to my experience! Honestly, I think my recovery was a lot easier than most of my friends who had vaginal births. I was up and walking less than 18 hours after surgery and holding/nursing my babies within an hour of delivery. It’s not all horror and pain and gore. I was super pro-vaginal delivery before I had my EMCS, but after my nightmare labour and the girls’/my stellar c-section recovery this last time, I would need a lot of convincing to go for a VBAC if I have another baby.

Having said that, OP, there are a lot of benefits to having a vaginal delivery, and it would be a shame to miss out on those without knowing how your own body will do in labour. Who knows? It might be a lot easier/quicker than you think!

Post # 139
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Worker bee

I wouldn’t want to. I model part-time and  I could not make as much money with a scar.

Post # 140
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just had my baby boy via elective c section.  I was actually scheduled for one at 38+6 weeks but went into labor in my own at 38+5 weeks instead so although it was an elective c section it happened when my baby was ready to come out.  My experience did not seem impersonal at all, I actually felt like I could fully take in my surroundings and my son’s first cries because I wasn’t concentrating on anything else but him.  I was given an epidural so nothing out of the ordinary that hindered my focus at all.  As soon as they pulled him out they raised him to my face so I could see him and hear his cry.  I then watched as my husband and the baby nurse measured, weighed and cleaned my son in the same room about a couple of feet from me all while my doc stitched me up.  Then as soon as they finished the apgar test they laid my son on me and i had skin to skin the whole time they wheeled me to a recovery room where they monitored us for an hour.  A LC came in and started us on breast feeding within the first 5 minutes of being in that room and i have no problems with producing enough milk for my chunky monkey (my milk came in the morning of day 3).  After they checked us and gave us the all cleared they wheeled me, with my son still in my arms, to the room we would stay in for the remainder of my recovery. He stayed in our room the whole time.  From the time he was born he was only taken out of my room when they checked him for jaundice and when they did his circumcision.  I think if you went the elective c section route, you can still have the after birth experience you want as long as you communicate it to your doctor.  I did not miss out on any bonding or skin to skin with my son.

As far as recovery goes… i had my son at 11:52am and they took the catheter out at 4am the next day.  As soon as the nurse took it out she helped me out of bed and I walked around the floor.  I was off pain meds by the time I left the hospital and my recovery has been easy.  I already feel 100% better and I’m only 2weeks+5 days out.  My doctor is still going by the 6 weeks recovery rule though.

My reasons for going this route is completely justified to me and really that’s all that matters.  Everyone is different and everyone should be able to make their own choices regarding their baby and their body as long as it doesn’t endanger their baby or themselves.  I don’t believe my choice of an elective c section endangered us at all and I would do it all over again the same way.  Read up on everything, pros/cons, others experiences, etc… Then pick what’s right for you because at the end of the day it’s you and your baby that will go through the experience and recovery, not any of us!

Post # 141
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@ms.jellen:  I’m curious what your reasons were and how you were allowed to elect to have a C section… I’m interested in doing the same, but my doctor said it’s not a choice.  Is there something I should be saying?  Thanks!

Post # 142
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ANewMrs:  my reasoning has to do with a prior miscarriage and anxiety due to it.  I told my doctor that I wanted an elective c section and he asked if I was sure and then he told me that he doesnt normally do them and he actually tries very hard to not go the c section route if he can help it but he said that it is ultimately up to me as it is my body and my choice.  I appreciate him greatly for realizing and respecting this.  

Post # 143
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ames12708:  

@lolot:  

genuinely curious, do you have a phobia of all surgical procedures or just c sections?

 

Due to a prior, medically necessary, surgery I will have to have a c section. I am fine with that. 

Post # 144
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’ve thought about this a lot. My mom had to have c-sections with all three of her babies, and her second was premature and died at one day old. We have a lot of problems with our lady parts in my family (endometriosis), and I assume I will have simliar problems to her. I had a friend recently have a c-section after trying for a very long time to have a natural birth, and she healed relatively quickly, and didn’t have many problems considering the surgery and being the mom of a newborn. I kind of wish people in general would not try to make others feel guilty for the way they want to do things when it comes to their pregnancies. This OPer didn’t ask for the health benefits of a natural birth, or anything, she just asked if others had thought about this. Everyone’s body is different, and what each person can handle is different, and nobody should be made to feel bad about their choices for child birth as long as they aren’t actually harmful to the baby. I was born by c-section and I’ve never had any problems in life associated with it, and my friends baby is one of the best more responsive newborns I’ve ever met, and she got plenty of good skin to skin first thing when he was born despite the c-section.

Post # 145
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had planned a natural birth but ended up with an emergency c-section. I also had very extreme and rare circumstances in the recovery process which kept me bed-ridden for the first 18 weeks of my sons life and left me unable to properly care for him by myself- which was even more of a nightmare considering I was a single mother. These were complications that were due to having a c-section and nothing else.

Now, if my c-section went as well as my BFF did where she was up and walking & totally fine within the first few days, I don’t think I’d hate on it as much as I do.

Considering what I went through and the complications that arose in recovery, along with health complications (my son did develop asthma that made the ER our second home for the first 6 years of his life)- I vote HELL TO THE NO for MYSELF (*unless absolutley medically neccessary*).

Again, I recognize my circumstances were extreme and this is not how things usually go, but after experiencing what I did- DS is an only child right now for a reason!!

Also- from a purely VAIN point of view, which I hesitate to even bring in to the discussion because it’s effect on my life is minimal for the most part, but I know for many women it would not be- my C-section left me with the dreaded “C-section shelf” (google it). I am a gym rat and eat VERY well and that flap of skin is still there, ten years later. During TOM, all bloat collects in that little pocket of skin, which in turn leads me to look like I am a few months pregnant for a week each month. Not cool.

Post # 146
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It wouldn’t be my first choice, but I would not hesitate to schedule a c-section if my doctor recommended it as the best, healthiest option for me and my baby. If all signs pointed to vaginal delivery being risky, I see no reason why to even go there.

I am not even TTC yet, but I have no fear of delivering vaginally. I find it a bit shocking that so many women are terrified of this. 

I also agree that any doctor who is so cavalier about handing out invasive surgical procedures on demand is probably not the best. I have a big problem with a lot of doctors these days who will just do whatever is asked of them by patients. 

Post # 147
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Most doctors will not allow elective C sections. Why? Because C sections are still surgery and carry the higher risks of complications that go along with surgery. It really blows my mind that people elect to have C sections in order to avoid the pain of childbirth or supposedly preserve vaginal integrity. I have had abdominal surgery (not a C section) and having the abdominal wall HURTS whereas the pain of childbirth is typically over once the child is born. As someone who grew up during the times when liberated women were taught to embrace their bodies and the natural rhythms of life, it makes me sad to see this.

Post # 148
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@idoalterations:  my friend was in labor for 14+ hours (don’t remember the exact amount) without progressing and she said to her ob-gyn so when are we going to do this c-section? And the gyno was so surprised she asked for it. my friend actually said she forcefully said she wanted it because she was so over the labor. They put her on the list and she was the next one to get the c. She said she was so glad that she got it done. 

Post # 149
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Don’t let everyone freak you out saying its major abdominal surgery. I had a C section after 48 hours of being induced. My epidural wore off likely due to my prior back surgery for scoliosis. I was only 5cm and the DR’s were slightly concerned that I wasn’t progressing after placing an interuterine monitor which told them my contractions were strong enough to dilate me, but I wasn’t dilating. I also could not go up on pitocin because my contractions were almost 2 minutes apart and they wanted them between 2-4.

It wore off in a matter of 10 minutes and I was instantly feeling like i would puke everywhere. I asked them to stop inducing me, shut off the pitocin, and take me for a C section. I had a high risk pregnancy because of cholestasis. My chances of getting it again are extremely high. You have to deliver by 37 weeks, well its EXTREMELY recommended, to avoid high increased still birth rate. With that in mind, I would likely have to be induced again and would want an epi, which may not work. And I didnt want to go thru 48 hours of that again only for my epi to wear off. So I decided to go for the C section.

My recovery was A PIECE OF CAKE. I had him at 11:22 pm. By the next morning I was getting up for short walks around my room… they got my catheter out by 11am. I would have showered then and there, but my son was born at 34 weeks so I had only gotten to see him for a short 30 minutes after my 2 hr wait in recovery, and then had to leave because they had to come push on my belly and check my utereus every 30 minutes. So needless to say I was eager to get downstairs and could care less about showering. I showered later that night. I stayed on top of my pain killers, ibuprofen and percocet, and never felt pain. I felt midly sore a few days later when i started to space out the pain killers.. but very midly. The key was to not over do it.

The group of girls in my birth month have all had similar C section recoveries.. all very easy. The vaginal delivery mamas have said it was way harder then they expected… being 2-3 weeks out and still nervous to pee, having to be careful how you sit.. having to spray your vaj to pee.

I’m actually kind of happy I had a c section. i kind of have interesting in experiencing vaginal birth, but my recovery was easy… we had sex 2 weeks PP. which i know isn’t recommended but I was so up for it. It had been 2 weeks before my induction because of bedrest.

Post # 150
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@WestCoastV:  I don’t have a phobia of surgical procedures in general, or of c-sections in particular. I just wouldn’t specifically choose to undergo either if I didn’t have to  🙂

Post # 151
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Personally, I would avoid a c-section unless absolutely necessary. Also, I would be turned off by a doctor if they were open to/encouraging elective c-sections if there was no medical reason for doing so.

However, I would just advise you to become educated about all the options and make the right decision for yourself. It’s troubling how little women know about our bodies and labor.

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