Post # 17
I always thought I wanted to be knocked totally out, cut open, and have a baby when I wake up. Now, that is my nightmare!
I have done a lot of research and it has led me to a natural birth plan. I would go to a birthing center if I wasnt high risk.
It all began when I watched a woman give a totally natural birth. 40 minutes after, she was sitting crossed legged eating chicken alfredo pasta! Her baby safely in the arm of the dad!
Then, I watched a c section, she couldnt move for hours afterwards because of the epidural. She couldnt go home as soon. And she had a lengthy recovery!
More than anything, I want to do whatever it takes to avoid post partum!
However, I would rather avoid pitocin like the plague. (for many many reasons!) Honestly, I would rather do a c section than go through hours of labor with pitocin and still have the chance of getting one anyway.
Post # 18
I had minor stomach surgery and it took awhile to recover. After that experience, I would not willingly have a major stomach operation.
Post # 19
Some people and situations do require intervention, that’s certain. But, labor and delivery are complicated series of events, so how one person’s labor progresses does not mean that someone else’s labor, or even her own subsequent labors, will be the same.
In your relative’s case… do you know if she had been induced? Do you know what positions she has labored in? Do you know if she stayed home for a while or did she go straight to the hospital when her contractions started? Do you know if she has any underlying or preexisting medical conditions?
I can’t judge someone else’s labor and birth decisions just like nobody should judge mine. I do encourage you to do your own research on evidence-based practices so you can be better armed with information. There are things you can do to help your labor go differently (nipple stimulation, squatting position, all fours position, etc) but you need to know what your options are before you make your decision.
Post # 20
Right. If giving birth vaginally was normal in my family, I wouldn’t even be writing this post. I’d just go for it. Some people just suck at giving birth, and the girls in my family are those people!
Post # 21
You may avoid the pain of childbirth, but you have the pain of having gone through surgery afterwards. The recovery time is significantly longer when you have a c-section and it can be hours before you feel strong/well enough to even hold your baby!
I won’t even get into the discussion/debate of the way modern healthcare handles childbirth, because it really is a very personal choice. For ME, giving birth in a hospital where interventions are significantly more likely to be used is my worst case scenario. Thank God for the technology to medicate or give c-sections when there are no other options, but given the option I am staying as far away from that as I can.
Post # 22
The protective bacteria help protect the child against asthma, allergies, type 1 diabetes, celiac disease, etc. Those are just the diseases that have currently been studied — the microbiome field is huge right now in research. Here’s a review: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3110651/
C sections are major surgery. There can be pretty significant recovery times. Unless there is a medical need for a C section, I would definitely not recommend one.
Post # 23
I highly suggest you watch The Buisness of Being Born. Its on netflix (along with its sequel). It is eye opening and can help you make an informed choice!
Also, besides a vaginal birth being better for baby in most cases, if your body can tolerate it, its better for you (especially hormonally)
Post # 24
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Do whatever is right for your situation based on you, your baby, and your doctor’s advice.
I personally wouldn’t elect for C-section because it’s major abdominal surgery and the people I know who have had it done had trouble caring for their newborn for the first few weeks due to the pain and discomfort of the stitches and recovery from the surgery. So in saving yourself from a day or two of labor pain you end up with weeks of discomfort and potential complications related to the surgery. But I don’t have the family history of not dilating so my situation would be very different. And a planned C-section is usually safer than an emergency C-section. That is probably the aspect I would focus on when discussing it with other women.
Post # 25
I’d strongly consider a C-section if I was getting pretty hefty during my pregnancy and wanted to avoid the last month of extra belly stretching/extra fat. I’ve never been pregnant. though, so I have no idea how my body will respond to it. Every women is different.
Post # 26
If I absolutely had to have a c-section then I would obviously but I am not going to elect to have one. I am going to try to avoid being induced too. Of course, who knows when I actually become pregnant. My never been pregnant self would like for my baby to cook for as long as it wants before coming into the world.
Post # 27
- Wedding: September 2014 - Hired hall
I had two vaginal deliveries, and I would definitely go that way again, purely because the recovery time after a c-section is so much longer. After having my daughter, I was up and about immediately. My son was a more difficult birth and I was very drained by the end, but still by the next day I was well on the way to feeling normal again, although it took about a week total. My SIL had to have a c-section because her baby’s heart rate dropped suddenly, and her recovery time was very long. She was weak and in pain for six weeks, she could barely lift anything (it was even hard holding her 6lb baby for fear of tearing her stitches), and she was very drained. For that reason alone I wouldn’t have a c-section. I also applaud women who do for medical reasons, and it makes me very angry when mothers get sanctimonious about having a vaginal delivery, and act like women who have c-sections are doing something wrong.
Post # 28
Since I don’t think you are interested in hearing the vaginal vs c-section debate, I will stick with your original question:
There are not many doctors in practice that will give you an elective c-section unless you have complications, and I don’t think your reasoning of the rest of your family having lengthy labors will warrant an elective c-section, but it is worth asking your doctor when you get to the point. Just don’t hold your breath, or you will need to find a doctor who would be willing to use that practice.
Post # 29
You should do what is right for you. I don’t think most doctors will offer a primary C-Section without medical necessity, though. I was originally set on 100% natural birth. I practiced hypnobirth, and I was determined! Then I had some pregnancy complications and after research and discussions with my doctors and midwives, we decided a primary section was the best option. Honestly, I loved my c-section. This is something that surprises me because I was SO wanting a natural birth. I was up as soon as the spinal tap wore off and walking the halls of my hospital the next day with my baby. By the time I was home (4 days later) I had no issues moving around. Maybe a little soreness when I sneezed, but that was about it. I was cleared for life as normal 4 weeks pp (exercise, sex, etc.), which is a lot sooner than many vaginal deliveries. Also, my daughter is extremely healthy. Scored a 9.9 on her apgars. So, I know my experience may not be the norm, but in my case the c-section was the absolute best option for the safety of myself and my baby, and turned out perfectly.
(I still can’t believe I’m writing this – 5 months ago, I was terrified at the thought of an epidural, let alone a c-section!)
Post # 30
Thanks for your sunny c-section story. My sister had similar experiences with her c-sections, which is why I’m not too scared of the recovery time. I’ll have to ask my doctors what their take on elective c-sections for first time moms is, but if they say no, I’ll just have to do my best to friggin dialate!
Post # 31
+1. Could not agree more. Thank you for listing these wonderful and sometimes overlooked benefits.