Post # 32
most doctors wont allow elective csections without a good reason
for me…well frankly i dont like either option, vaginal or csection haha but my baby has to come out some how. im worried about the long recovery tme of a csection as DH and I wont have any help from our families, at least for a bit so im trying a vaginal brith. NOT natural – i want an epi!
Post # 33
I’m open to either. The idea of tearing terrifies me, but I know there can be a lot of issues with a c-section as well. I read about someone who’s incision got infected and they had to leave it unstitched for the 6 weeks it took to heal naturally – ack!
Also I highly doubt your insurance would cover an elective c-section without some sort of medical reason. Most doctors won’t okay it either.
Post # 34
No matter what you ultimately end up doing, this is a decision that should be made based on lots of good research and information, and absolutely should not be rooted in fear of childbirth. Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin is a great resource for demystifying birth and helping women weigh the pros and cons of the various options. I would recommend reading it. You may still feel the same at the end, but you will be better informed in your decision.
Post # 35
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Me too. Doing the research convinced me that a vaginal, non-medicated birth is best for me and my baby.
Absolutely! That book changed my life! It is fantastic and a great resource for all women, regardless of their current knowledge on pregnancy, labor, and birth.
I think you’re being a bit hasty. You don’t have any idea how your body is going to act during labor and delivery. Just because some of the women in your family had trouble does not mean you will. There’s a lot more that goes into it than genetics. I encourage you to do the research before making a decision that could adversely affect you and/or your baby. I understand being afraid. I was so terrified of birth that I didn’t even want to have kids for most of my life. But reading Ina May Gaskin’s “Guide to Childbirth” changed my life. Reading a book is the least you could do before making such an important decision. I also recommend the documentary “The Business of Being Born.”
Post # 36
having major surgery to avoid gaining a few extra pounds and stretch marks is a terrible reason to force a child to be born earlyhop maybe you were kidding?
Post # 37
I think c-sections sound really ideal for someone as an alternative to scary childbirth. There are doctors who will do an elective c-section if that’s what the mother really wants, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the best thing for you or your baby. A c-section isn’t just cutting open the stomach, ripping the baby out and moving on with your life. A c-section is a real surgery, and abdominal surgeries can be the most painful ones. Someone I babysat for in the past just had a c-section with her fourth baby, so granted, she has three other kids running around, but it took her two or three months to fully recover. You would be in pain just like any other surgery, you wouldn’t be able to do any housework, it would be hard to care for your newborn alone, etc.
I think being able to choose a c-section is just the parents’ way of trying to gain some kind of control over something that they really don’t have any control over in the end. It’s the same with a mother attempting to downright refuse a c-section even though lives are at stake because she wanted a natural birth. We pretend that we are 100% in control of things 100% of the time, but it’s not true.
I’m in no way trying to scare you out of your desire to have a c-section or anything like that, but I’m just being real. Ultimately, that decision should be left between you and your doctor. I think the major difference between the two options is that with a c-section you may not necessarily feel the pain and have to push like with a vaginal birth, but you also have to factor in recovery time whereas with natural birth you go through several hours of pain and recover a bit more quickly.
Post # 38
I had a purely elective c-section for my first baby three weeks ago yesterday. I opted to have one after having considered the pros and cons of a vaginal birth vs. a c-section and deciding that a c-section was the best thing for me.
The big factors in my decision were the c-section carrying the lower risk of death / permanent disability for the baby (my dad has cerebral palsy from oxygen starvation at birth) and the risk of pelvic floor injury from a vaginal birth and the long-term issues there could be with incontinence / scarring. There are definitely good reasons to choose a vaginal birth but there are also good reasons to choose a c-section.
A lot of people mention the recovery period as their primary reason for wanting to avoid a c-section. As far as my section goes, I was walking within a few hours of the epi wearing off and had just a couple of days where it was uncomfortable to walk around. I’ve felt great ever since and have had no problems looking after the baby / doing the housework etc.
I hope you get to choose the type of birth that you want 🙂
Post # 39
@idoalterations: *raises hand* I have read all the books and done my research and I still would rather have a c-section. I was a c-section baby myself.
That being said I’m not going to force the issue with this baby. We will see what the doctor recommends. I will however not even entertain the idea of natural child birth sans a load of drugs. I refuse to be in pain when there is no need for me to be.
Post # 40
@idoalterations: I had a c-section with my daughter and I would not recommend it for anyone. Caring for a newborn after a c section is extremely difficult. I was in A LOT of pain and had a very difficult time moving around afterwards as well. If it were me, I’d try to go trough with labor first.
Post # 41
As an RN (and my husband is an anesthesiologist), if you find an MD that offers elective c-sections…..RUN.
Post # 42
I am sorry but I actually gasped when i read your post. You would seriously, knowingly make a choice that is worse for your babies health AND your own health to not gain 5 extra pounds? I am childless by choice and I honestly hope you are too!
Post # 43
I am childless at the moment, with no real plans to have kids anytime soon but it’s still on the table for something I may want to do down the line.
Vaginal birth and C-section both come with their risks, for the baby and the mother. About 1/3 of babies in the U.S. are born via C-section. It’s not a bg deal if women to choose that option–because it’s precisely that: an option.
Post # 44
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
I know my doctor would be okay with an elective c section; I originally had asked for one and he was willing to schedule it. Then I freaked out. I go back and forth with it. I’ve had it rough the last few weeks and I’m not gonna lie, it’s been tempting to just schedule it but the recovery is what scares me (and I know I could probably end up with a c section anyway, there are no guarantees). But for whatever reason, I personally feel like by not trying to go vaginally I would be giving up on myself. I am also concerned (and have admittedly not done any research so this may sound ignorant) since I would like to try to breastfeed, how does the body “know” after a c section to start producing milk?
Post # 45
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
As someone who works in health care policy, this post makes me realize how very far we still have to go. SMH.
Post # 46
Not sure about the biology of it all, but I think your body “knows” once the placenta is removed. How it’s removed doesn’t matter.