(Closed) Who would rather have a c-section?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@idoalterations:  

I do not like to shame women (especially mothers) for the choices they make. I think there is too much of that in the world. I see a lot of it regarding issues like breast-feeding vs. formula feeding. I think that every mother has to make the best choice she can for herself and her baby and it is no one else’s place to judge. 

So I say this with the least amount of judgment possible and please forgive me if it comes off as harsh. I think there is a big difference between a medically necessary c-section (your labor not progressing) and having one because you think it will be easier/prettier. I don’t want to poop on the table or end up with a vaganus (term another bee used that my DH thinks is hilarious) any more than the next girl, but I would never compromise my baby’s health for these reasons. Several PP have posted many of the health benefits of a vaginal birth over a c-section and you’ve dismissed it as “a little protective bacteria.” The fact is that a c-section is major abdominal surgery that does carry risks. Many doctors will not do an elective c-section if there are no reasons why it is medically necessary, this should tell you something. 

I know it can seem like people here are ganging up on you, but you asked who else would rather have a c-section and it seems the majority here would rather not. I wish you the best of luck and that your baby is healthy no matter which route you go. 

 

Post # 63
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Sugar Beekeeper
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@CorvusCorax:  It’s not a big deal necessarily to opt for a c-section, but it is a much bigger deal to opt for an early elective delivery (before 39 weeks) for no reason other then maternal comfort and stretch mark avoidance.

Post # 64
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Sugar Beekeeper
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@lovekiss:  +1000 (I’m in h.c. policy, too!)

 

I was super excited to read this morning that Maryland Hospital Assoc. wants to ban elective deliveries before 39 weeks.  Slowly but surely moving in the right direction!

 

Post # 65
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope not unless an emergency c section. It is getting out of hand on how many women are doing picking a date to deliver and do c sections a lot of doctors are now refusing to do this

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Commenting to follow… I’m due in April and it’s interesting to hear these perspectives.  Well, most of these perspectives.

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would never have an elective c-section and would only have one if my child’s health was in danger during labor.  I know 2 women who had them and both said it took them a full year to feel fully normal and healed, and neither one could understand why a woman would choose to have a c-section.

Also, I’ve watched “The Business of Being Born” and read Ina May’s book, so those help too.  I used to be terrified of childbirth and after having access to those resources I now feel empowered and certain that when the time comes I will be fully ready to give birth.  I also plan on using a midwife so I have a better chance of having a vaginal birth.

Post # 68
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Busy Beekeeper
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@MrsWBS:  I know. Little steps in the right direction! I think the Partnership for Patients is making some really good progress in turning the tide against elective inductions. Hopefully, with solid performance data on the effects of that effort they will be able to broaden the obstetrical care focus to tackle the issue of elective c-sections, too. Fingers crossed.

Post # 69
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@idoalterations:  I read somewhere that the frequency of scheduled c-sections varies drastically by location.  In some places 74% of births are scheduled c’s whereas in others it’s less than 5%.. I’ll try and find the article I read…

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I much rather a vaginal birth than a C-setion, for all the same reasons everyone else has posted.

 

I am a nursing student, and when I was doing my maternity rotation I had the opprotunity to see both natural and c-section births.

 

The natural birth was amazing! Yes the mom was in a whole heck of a lot of pain, but he husband was able to watch their child be born into the world and her mom was their to hold her hand. The intensity right before the baby was born was insane! Everyone was trying not to talk and distract the mom, while also trying to encourage her at the same time… and then when the babe came out it was complete silence except for the baby crying. It was the most amazing sound I ever heard, and then the mother cried, and then the grandmother and the husband. They quickly cleaned off the baby and then place him on the naked mothers chest. It was the most amazing experience I ever seen. I cried. I had no idea who the people were, can’t remember what they look like, can’t remember if it was a boy or girl, and will probably never see them again in my life (I wouldn’t know if I did or not). I literally just walked in as she was in her final pushes, and those 10 minutes that I was there was so beautiful that I cried (and i’m not a cry-er).

 

A few days later I went to see the c-section. COMPLETELY different!!! It was so…medical, and clean and routine. Mom gets an epidural, lays down, puts a certain over her stomach so she can’t see, bring in the husband who sits beside her head, and then they cut into her stomach, take the baby out, raise the baby up over the curtain so the parents can see, doctor cuts the cord, clean off baby and check APGARs, then babe and dad gets taken out of the operating room and mom lays on the table for another 30 minutes getting stitched up.

I hated the c-section, it was so impersonal, I had no feelings towards it, but sadness for the mother because she didn’t know about the amazing experience she had missed out on (even though it might not have been her choice to get the c-section).

 

Studies show that mothers who get c-sections rarely get the opprotunity for skin-to-skin right after delivery. Skin-to-skin is incredible important, especially if the mom plans of breatfeeding, and it’s just so disheartening to hear them not getting the opprotunity as much as vag deliveries.

 

I will be extremely disappointed if I needed a c-section.

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I had a c-section with my son, and will have one with this baby. The risks involved in the VBAC are too scary for me.

My first c-section went really well, I healed really fast. It wasn’t hard for me to take care of the baby and with my first son I was a single mom so I was alone.
I didn’t need to stay on any pain meds, I stopped them after the first week. I had skin to skin immediately then again the baby stayed with me after 20 minutes of stitching me up.
I believe I was pretty healed up after a couple-few weeks. It hurts at first, but it wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be originally.
I breastfed for the first 6months (had to stop for personal reasons).

So I’m hoping for another experience like that.

 

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@MammaPants:  “TL;DR: Go in with an open mind. You may not get any say any way.”

My thoughts exactly. I’m not even TTC yet but I’m terrified of natural (like, how is that even possible!?!?) and terrified of recovery from a c-section. It looks like there’s really no easy way out. If having kids is ever in the cards for us, we’ll just have to take it as it comes and let it take its course, wherever it may lead.

Post # 74
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@idoalterations:  I’m having a c-section that is medically necessary. Even if it wasn’t, I’d elect to. I don’t judge women for allowing their vaginas to stretch out so I’m not sure why everyone feels it is their place to judge me for choosing not to. 

To each their own. Focus on motherhood not how the baby got here! No one has a right to judge my birth choice just like I don’t have a right to judge theirs. I don’t care to be PMed statistics or told I’m wrong either, FYI. 

Post # 75
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

idoalterations

 

i would never want a c-section. ive worked in the OR and the OB. not every natural birth means stitches there but ive watched a c-section and taken care of them. its soooooo hard on your body. no offense but most women feel older after childbirth… after a c-section you feel even older compared to a natural.  they take the uterous out and flip it upside down (seriously what it looks like) on your belly to stitch it up. after seeing that…… im afraid ill have no choice but to get one. ;-/ would way rather have it naturally. it also takes like 5x longer for you to come back from it. i also have met women who couldnt handle the anesthesia. even though they went well, from what i have seen and ive seen a hand full of each, its a nightmare compared to doing it naturally.

 

Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Being one of those folks who just gave birth 2 months ago naturally, I can tell you that I would do it again… I literaly feel like I can do anything I set my mind to!

HOWEVER.

My best friend delivered a couple months prior to me by C-section (failure to progress induction) and her recovery was MUCH faster than mine. I had a couple tears and one was second degree. When I heard that, I’m thinking, great, I got off light. WRONG. I could hardly walk for a week!

 

 

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