Post # 77
My mom had a medically necessary planned c-section with me and I’m open to a c-section with my future children. That being said, I would only have a c-section if it could be scheduled a few days before my due date or be done when I go into labour – whichever comes first. I have had a lot of medical issues in the past couple years with my lower abdominal area (like my bladder, reproductive organs, intestines, etc.) and I want to go with whatever will be the safest for me and best for me in the long run. I want my baby to get all of the health benefits from a vaginal birth, but I also can’t imagine having long-term pain or pain my whole life from messing something up down there from pushing! I’m also a planner and hate the unknown so maybe a c-section would be better for me emotionally. It’s not really about the pain, my period cramps are so bad that I could swear they’re labour pains – I throw up and sometimes faint from them. I guess a c-section just seems more appealing to me? I’ll definitely do more research and talk to doctors about it when we’re TTC, but right now I’m okay with either option and would prefer a c-section.
Post # 78
If a woman is choosing to have a c-section only because she doesn’t want her vagina to be stretched out, she is probably not ready to become a mother. There are a lot more sacrifices a mother makes than just her vagina.
OP had other concerns including the fact that she has a family history of needing c-sections, which is a little bit different.
Post # 79
I guess you missed the part about messaging me with unsolicited advice. You can want to be a mother and not destroy your body. Strangers have no right to judge me. Period.
Also, in case you just read the part that suits your needs, it is medically necessary for me. I said, even if it wasn’t, I still would. That is MY choice. Worry about yourself.
Post # 80
I would just like to point out you posted your opinion on a public fourm, which opens it up to public opinion, perhaps you should not post things you dont want commentary on on a discussion board?
Post # 81
I agree with a PP that said you just need to go in with an open mind. I’m not opposed to a C-section so if my doctor says that I need one, sure! I’m also having an epidural if possible. My friends have run the gamut of all natural birth to scheduled c-section and they are all happy with their own personal choice. No scary stories to report back and no extra long recoveries or complications for those with c-sections or those that did things vaginally.
I really dislike pushy people that say one way of giving birth is the absolute best way. Every situation is different and the “best” way to give birth is the one that results in a happy mother and the birth of her child. Why try to shame someone because they want pain meds? Or if giving birth vaginally is going to cause them PTSD why make them feel bad for choosing a c-section? Not calling out any particular poster, but just the attitude that I see many times regarding birth choices.
Post # 82
You have to do what’s best for you and the baby. If that involves a c-section, it involves a c-section. There are plenty of reason to do it that way.
The best thing you can do is look at research from all sides (not just anti-c-section or pro c-section) and talk to a trusted doctor.
Post # 83
Just wanted to chime in…
I was induced at 39 weeks b/c of a sudden spike in my previously normal blood pressure. After 3 days of inductions (pitocyn, foley and the gel…they tried it all!) bubs was stubbornly sunny side down and wouldnt budge. After 4 hrs of pushing, I was so exhausted, I agreed to an emergency c-section.
Baby was healthy and I was walking around 6 hrs later. The healing was so quick, medical staff was very impressed. But im no super hero, its all about attitude unless there are complications. For me it was a very easy recovery and the scar is minimal, easily hidden by a bikini bottom. Maybe I was just lucky but its not always a horror show.
Ill be getting a scheduled c-section next time and im happy with that!
Post # 84
lmao, don’t worry about it. You know that kid in school who would tag you and then immediately claim that wherever they were standing was base and you can’t tag them back? Sometimes you run into those people in the adult world too lol.
Post # 85
i have a fear of delivering. i have a fear of pushing a baby out of a hole that is normally the size of a quarter.
however, that being said, i wouldn’t have a c-section unless it was necessary. i’ve had abdominal surgery before, and the recovery sucks.
Post # 86
- Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park
@idoalterations: The thing is, it *is* a major abdominal surgery. Not thinking about it doesn’t make it any less true.
Post # 87
Uhm I am so not going to get into this debate lol I will just say your question was who would rather have a csection? and my answer is NOT ME!!! I have nightmares about csections, being SECTIONED ALIVE is no where on my bucket list lol. I’m happy to let my lady business do what it was in fact made to do. But that’s just me.
Post # 88
I had a prolonged labor and a difficult delivery, and was actually encouraged to have a c-section, but I did not want to put myself or my baby through that unless it was a last resort. I do wish I could have had an epidural, however. I decided to stop after one child.
Post # 89
Wow. That is incredibly insulting.
..and then you go on to imply that somehow vaginal birth is detroying one’s body, but scarring it with a c-section procedure is not?
That’s really, really fantastic.
Post # 90
If a c-section is medically necessary then I get that you would want it. But please give the natural birth a chance. If you go into delivery with the mindset that it won’t work then chances are it wont… My mother had a very difficult first delivery. Lots of interventions and a very long delivery. She kindly told me that it was the worst thing she had ever experienced, when I was 36 weeks pregnant.
But I decided to ignore her and think of it as a positive experience.
Guess it worked because I had amazing 6-hour delivery. I just had my second baby 2 months ago and that was 2 hours from start to finish and recovery for both has been a piece of cake.
I’m not saying it’s all in being positive, but please don’t decide it won’t work before even giving it a chance.
Post # 91
Just some food for thought…
Women’s bodies are made to deliver vaginally and yes sometimes there are complications that lead to a cesarean. I am glad we have the medically ability to be able to do this because without that option my mom and I would both be dead. However, my mom had several vaginal deliveries after having a cesarean with me and she always maintains that she would pick vaginal delivery any day. She found the recovery afterwards way easier.
You mentioned your family not being able to give birth vaginally several times, but obviously your ancestors were able to do it 🙂 Otherwises you wouldn’t be here today! I’m sure it is possible for your family to do it; however, often times in our society medical care steps in quite early.
My mom laboured for 4 days to dilate to 10cm with one of my sibilings. She delivered vaginally. I’m not sure what you meant by dilating “properly” but there is a variety of speeds that women dilate at, I don’t think one way/speed is more proper than another.