- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Anyways, I guess I should answer the PP’s question.
I try not to judge, but for me, a woman *wanting* a c-section is something I have difficulty relating to. I don;t know how you feel. I’ve never felt the way you do.
I wanted a natural birth without meds and ended up induced with gel and had an epi (at 10cm..doh!). I gave birth within 6 hours of my contractions starting (PS my mom’s labours were MUCH longer), tore slightly, pooped on the table (I had to actually ask the nurse if I did.. honestly, you won’t realize if you do) and the whole shabang. I wouldn’t change it for a thing. I hope my next birth is the same!
Unfortunately, in our society, we’re bombarded with a the notion that labour is this horrendous, horrific, traumatizing event. We all share horror stories for some messed up reason…
Once you go through it, (for most women) it really isn’t as bad as it sounds. Sure, tearing your vagina and pooping in front of nurses (who then clean said poo up) seems like a nightmare, but when you go through it, it’s surprising how little it matters.
Now of course, this is all coming from me and my perspective, which may mean absolutely nothing.
I think it is great that you’re entering into your choice with education. Even if you do go and choose an elective c-section, at least you will have educated yourself. You know what you’re getting into, and not blindly saying, “OMG, I will never push a baby out of my vagina so I don’t stretch it out!” without seeing all sides of the equation.
Good luck either way. I hope that when you do reach that time in your life, that it goes as complication-free as possible!