(Closed) Who would rather have a c-section?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 92
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Anyways, I guess I should answer the PP’s question.

I try not to judge, but for me, a woman *wanting* a c-section is something I have difficulty relating to. I don;t know how you feel. I’ve never felt the way you do.

I wanted a natural birth without meds and ended up induced with gel and had an epi (at 10cm..doh!). I gave birth within 6 hours of my contractions starting (PS my mom’s labours were MUCH longer), tore slightly, pooped on the table (I had to actually ask the nurse if I did.. honestly, you won’t realize if you do) and the whole shabang. I wouldn’t change it for a thing. I hope my next birth is the same!

Unfortunately, in our society, we’re bombarded with a the notion that labour is this horrendous, horrific, traumatizing event. We all share horror stories for some messed up reason…

Once you go through it, (for most women) it really isn’t as bad as it sounds. Sure, tearing your vagina and pooping in front of nurses (who then clean said poo up) seems like a nightmare, but when you go through it, it’s surprising how little it matters.

Now of course, this is all coming from me and my perspective, which may mean absolutely nothing.

I think it is great that you’re entering into your choice with education. Even if you do go and choose an elective c-section, at least you will have educated yourself. You know what you’re getting into, and not blindly saying, “OMG, I will never push a baby out of my vagina so I don’t stretch it out!” without seeing all sides of the equation.

Good luck either way. I hope that when you do reach that time in your life, that it goes as complication-free as possible!

Post # 93
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@ames12708:  HA! well said!  Fuck no am I going to be cut open alive unless I absolutely have to be.

Post # 94
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@idoalterations:  I support the right for women with the help of doctors or midwives to have whatever birth would be best for her and the baby.  Some women, because of previous trauma of some sort, need an elective c-section.  However, nearly all women are capable of giving birth vaginally.  Your female family members could have been coerced into unnecessary c-sections (and often times, doctors are tightlipped on such things) or they could have legitimately needed them.  But don’t let what happened to them, determine what birth experience you should have.  There are many birthing methods/programs/options out there for women to give birth with as little pain as possible and then there are of course, epidurals (which do increase your risk of needing pitocin or a c-section) that do have success rates!

My Mother-In-Law has a malformed pelvis.  She went into labor three times and had three “emergency” c-sections–technically she was scheduled for the last two but went into labor before the scheduled c-sections.  Anyway, her daughter (my SIL), has successfully given birth vaginally three times without intervention or medication.  In fact, her 2nd labor was only 3 hours and her most recent labor was less than 2 hours.  Her most recent birth was a homebirth where her husband caught their son because their midwife didn’t arrive in time!  That’s rare to be honest.  What I’m saying is my SIL, had she not done her research, could have resigned herself to believing she “needed” c-sections because my Mother-In-Law had them.

There’s nothing immoral or wrong about c-sections and I think they’re life-saving.  I just want you to know that you have options.

Post # 95
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@urchin:  great post!!!  (The 2nd.  Although the 1st was good too.)

Post # 96
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@idoalterations:  I’ve never given birth, I’m pregnant with my first. I LOVE the idea of a scheduled C-section. Birth in any form (vaginal and c-section) scares me, I just can’t figure out which scares me less lol. The main issue I personally have with c-sections is that I get keloids, so I’m assuming there is a chance my c-section scar could go crazy and get huge and look awful. That’s really my main pause from going “Woohoo c-sections!”. 🙂

My coworker had 3 c-sections, the last two scheduled. With her first after laboring countless hours, they realized the baby’s head could not physically fit through her pelvic bone. With that in mind she scheduled the rest of her births.

She just had her third baby a month ago, and she said it was her easiest recovery. She was driving a week after the birth and caring for a newborn and two kids under 4. Everyone is different and will respond/recover differently to both c-sections and vaginal births.

My basic philosophy is, I don’t care what you do as long as the kid makes it out safely. *shrug*

Post # 97
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

Hells to the no. I’m not going to have major abdominal surgery unless it is absolutely necessary. I’m hoping to have a natural birth at The Farm.

Post # 98
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Let’s be real. No one wants to push an 8 pound human baby out of very, very narrow body cavity that once served a very differentt, more enjoyable purpose.

 

But we do it.

Post # 99
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@ilovebogart:  Just want to give you some kudos…huge kudos!

Thanks for your honesty, its beautiful…and refreshing!

Post # 100
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@BRbee:  +1 for making it out safely! I tots agree, thanks for your opinion and your honesty 🙂

Post # 101
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsPanda99:  Right on Panda!  OP asked for opinions, you gave yours. End of story. 

 

Our bodies, our choices…end of fricking story.

Post # 102
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts

Well when I had my daughter 6 years ago I ended up with preeclampsia. So they sent me to the hospital 4 weeks early. They tried to induce labor but it didnt work out. He ended up preforming a c-section. During the procedure I remembering him saying I would have ended up with a c-section anyways becamuse my hips are super narrow and I would not have been able to push her out. So the next time I have to go through this I’m not sure which way to go. On one hand I don’t want the surgery again but on the other I don’t want it to turn into an emergency because the baby gets stuck and I’m unable to push it out. Seems like I’m in a lose lose situation for me 🙁 Btw my child ended up in the intermediate care unit after birth because her oxygen saturation dropped after birth, then she couldn’t breath and eat at the same time, and then she had a hole in her heart at birth but that closed within a few days.

Post # 103
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsPanda99:  having a vaginal birth does not destroy most women despite the fact you always insist on saying that it does.

Post # 104
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If it is medically necessary – sure. Otherwise, hell no. In case nobody has ever told you – surgery HURTS. For a lot longer than giving birth vaginally.

Post # 105
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MrsWBS:  +1. I didn’t realize I was choosing to stretch out my vagina by having a natural birth. I think my vagina will be the least of my problems once I have kids. Also, if you’re on a message board asking people not to judge you for your birthing choices, it might serve you well not to make judgmental comments implying that women are choosing to deform their bodies by having a natural birth. Any way you slice it, your body will go through hell and back when you give birth. End of story.

Post # 106
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Perineal tears are scary, long labor in vain is scary….but as a nurse and expectant mother of twins, these babies are coming out of my vag if at all possible. It’s taking a narrow view to are the benefits of vaginal birth as insignificant….or minor. We were made to give birth vaginally for a reason. Thank God the option of c section is there for us when vaginal birth is not an option….but it is by far not the ideal way for a baby to enter the world.

it’s also taking a narrow view to assume you will not be successful giving brith jest because your. Female relatives haven’t had much luck. Every new generation bringa forth changes in your family’s previous predispositions. I think youve become conditioned that c section works and vaginal birth doesn’t. 

I think ink fear is often the feul to elective c section. 

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