I didn’t read through everything, but given the nature of your OP, I am pretty sure you received a lot of flack for it. I’m sorry about that. The worst part is many people with strong black and white opinions have never actually been through it and only read research, which doesn’t give you the whole story.
I had my son by c-section after 47 hours of labour that didn’t go well. I was one of those who was really scared of doing things naturally, but I read the research that said it was better so I prepared myself for that and was actually ready. I was convinced that my woman body was perfectly capable to do it because it was built for it. Well, things don’t always go as planned, and I ended up being exhausted from the labor, not able to feed my child without supplementing with formula for three weeks because the milk wouldn’t come (I was so exhausted and stressed), and depressed that my body failed me in every way. I did not enjoy the first moments of my first born’s life at all. I had to recover from the c-section, yes, but also from the labor at the same time which had left me with bruised bones, so pretty much incapacitated for a while. I developed infection from having my water break so early and all the vaginal exams happening after… Infection that spread to my c-section incision site and my scar was pretty bad after. I would have had to live with that scar that actually hurt me forever.
We pushed back our plans to have a second baby right away because I didn’t want to go through that ever again. In fact, at first I told my DH I was done.. Then I got over it and changed my mind but it took months.
Second baby, I chose to have a c-section. Got a lot of flack for it by people who kept saying that every labor is different, that a natural birth would be so much better and easier for me and the baby, bla, bla, blah… They gave me all the research info that you get here…
Well, I was not going to take the chance to repeat my first experience. So we scheduled a c-section. My visits with my OBGYN were shorter, fewer invasive tests… On the day, I arrived 2 hours prior to the surgery, I wasn’t stressed, they prepped me and I went in. 30 minutes later my beautiful, perfectly healthy baby girl was born, and another 30 minutes later I was stiched up. DH and I were talking and laughing all the way through the birth. I was alert and rested, I could do skin to skin with my daughter right away and was able to breastfeed as soon as I got out of the OR. I was on my feet a few hours later. Oh, and they took out the ugly itching scar and now I have a neat one that doesn’t itch like crazy. No infection.
I am so happy about how it all went, if I wanted more children I would not be scared to have them anymore. So, yeah.. If you feel that a c-section is better in your situation, then you’re the only person along with your DH and doctor who can decide what’s better for your family and children. Of course the c-section can be risky, but so can the natural birth. And research doesn’t tell you about the aftermath of emergency c-sections. It sucks. If you have good chances of ending up with an emergency c-section, you better try to avoid it – better have a planned one than an emergency one.