Post # 1
So, FI and I got into this random debate full of hypothetical situations, and the one we are both in disagreement over is this, so I thought I’d turn to you bees for some cold hard honest opinions. When you answer, it may help to acknowledge whether or not you are already a parent, or parent-to-be, as FI says it may be different if the “parental instincts have kicked in”. I hope no one is offended by this, as it is meant to be purely a hypothetical What if? debate.
The situation is as follows:
There is an earthquake, and cars are falling into the ground. On your left, about 100ft away, is a school bus full of 50 kids. On your right, also about 100ft away, is a car with your child in it.
You only have time to make it to one vehicle. Do you save your own child, or the school bus?
Alternatively, it is not your child in the car, but your husband. Do you save your husband, or the school bus?
And finally, the bus is not a school bus, but a regular public bus filled with the same number of people, but they are adults rather than children. Does this influence your decisions on who to save?
Post # 3
This probably isn’t the nicest answer, but everytime, I’d choose my own family first, no hesitation. I could be a hero…but how could I ever choose strangers over the people I either created, or chose to spend my life with?
Post # 4
I would choose my own family, in every scenario.
Post # 6
I would pick my child, and that is me just being purely honest, might not like my answer but my daughter is a miracle and I almost died having her. That being said I would pick my child. as I lived the rest of my life with survivor guilt that I saved my child and let another 50 perish.
Post # 7
I will go ahead and say this makes me sound insanely selfish and I’m sure people will flame me for this but I would 100% save my husband. (I don’t have kids, and at this point I’m not sure if we will.) I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t try to save my husband.
Post # 8
I would chose my fiance every time.
Post # 9
My child over a bus filled with kids
The bus filled with kids over my husband (probably… It depends on the age, and if my kids are watching since they shouldn’t have to watch their Dad die)
Child OR husband over the bus filled with adults
Clearly I work with kids, though! I can’t imagine sacrificing a child for an adult, though!
Post # 10
Instinct would kick in and I would go for my child/husband I think. It would be the knee jerk reaction. I can justify this anyway by saying how could I save a whole bus, I’m strong but not quite that strong 🙂
Post # 11
I would most likely save the bus, because that is what my FI would do, and that is what I would expect him to do.
Post # 12
scenario 1: my own child. What on earth am I going to do with 50 kids…? I’d get my kid first, then see what I could do.
scenario 2: presumably, my husband can save himself. If he can’t, I’m going to save him. But then, I’d also try to save the kids (whether or not I have time is irrelevant) Although, again, how amy I going to save 50 children? Can no one act in any way to increase their own chances of survival? Is everyone passed out?
scenario 3: I’d get my child or husband first, then see what I could do for anyone else. It’s all about priorities.
Post # 13
Would this involve running 100ft? Because there’s no way I’d do that!
In all those instances, I would choose to save my family. Much as I would love to be a hero and sav 50 kids, I would rather have my own child or husband with me.
Post # 14
I would always choose my family.
Post # 15
I would definitely choose my family first if I had the ability to save them, but this is such a tricky type of question. I can’t imagine being able to save a school bus full of children realistically anyway. So if it was my child in the car OR my husband in the car I’d definitely save them/him first. And yes if the bus was filled with grown adults then I would not even hestitate to go for my family first because grown adults are much more capable of saving themselves than kids. I think if I was ever in such a horrible situation that instinct would kick in and I would automatically go to save my family first anyway. Like it probably just be a subconscious decision.
Post # 16
Agree with the other bees here. For me, my family, my life is most important to me. Everyone should have someone or a group of people who care about them the most, love them the most, protect them the most, etc family and spouse should serve in that role.