Post # 62
I would have to save my own family members in those scenarios. I have not yet had my own children, but I do have stepchildren. My greatest obligation, as well as my strongest desire, would be to help them.
I agree with @peachacid: that the scenarios given here aren’t really creating the level of conflict that is generally associated with these exercises. Last night, my Darling Husband, DSD, and I watched “The Impossible,” the movie about a family that experienced the devastating tsunami in Thailand in 2004. My Darling Husband was quite visibly emotional over the husband/father’s choice to send his two little boys, ages 7.5 and 5, by themselves — in a foreign country in the middle of a horrific disaster — with strangers to a place where they might be protected so that he could remain behind to keep looking for his lost wife and older son. That would have been a very hard choice to make.
Post # 63
My child. My husband. Sorry, strangers.
Post # 64
I think in a situation like this, instinct will always win. I don’t think anyone could actually walk away from the people they love to save someone else. JMO
Post # 65
I’d choose my family every time without hesitation.
Post # 66
my Darling Husband and my child in all of those scenarios. you don’t have much time to react during an earhquake. i grew up in the SF area and was here for the 89 quake. i barely had time to reach a doorway. for the first few seconds i was frozen because i didn’t realize what was going on. you most likely wouldn’t have time to decide who to save before the shaking stops.
Post # 67
How on earth could anyone as a mother not say child first? I’d let 1000000 people die over leaving my daughter to die. Guaranteed. Like @Brielle said, my obligation and strongest desire would always be to save my baby. There’s nothing more important to me on this planet than her.
If I had to choose between my husband or my daughter I would save my daughter in hopes my husband could save himself. If not. I would still save her.
The last one is hard, because I think he would want me to try and save the kids, but at the same time, I think my instinct would be to go to him.
Post # 68
- Wedding: November 2013 - Garden
I think most men would say they’d save the bus and most women would save their family. As a general rule – and of course there are always exceptions! – men tend to make split decisions rationally, while women make split decisions emotionally.
Post # 69
I would save my son no matter what. I couldn’t imagine losing him. In the other senerios I’d save my husband no matter whose in the other bus.
Post # 70
@Daffadowndilly: My husband is wicked rational, and he just said he would save me and/or our kids.
Post # 71
1st my child. He agree.
2nd I wouldn’t save my husband because I know that he would want me to save the kids. I would expect the same, I’m an adult I’ve lived give those 50 a chance
3rd example I’d save husband over adults. He agrees.
Post # 72
My Children and my FH, Always. no matter who was in the bus on the other side.
I asked FH and he said the same as me.
He couldnt live without us so why would he not save us.
I find it odd that people who have children would be willing to let them die…the thought makes me sick to my stomach so I am Glad FH said what he did lol!
Post # 73
Without thinking I guarantee I would try to save my husband and/or my child. It would be instinctual to try and save my family.
Post # 74
My SO could definitely save himself, if he ever has to rely on my strength to survive we’re both doomed, haha.
As far as the child in a car vs. 50 children in a bus, I’d go to the car. I can’t imagine a bus sinking in the ground very far during an earthquake and they have rooftop emergency exits (it would be fairly easy to get them out after the bus sank down. A car is much more difficult to escape from and typically cars have smaller frames and could be crushed more easily than busses.
This would never happen in reality because I don’t know what 50 children would be doing without adult supervison to begin with. Also, I don’t live in the middle of the sticks so the likliness of me being the only adult around are slim to none.
Post # 75
I’d always save “me” first. Therefore, I will save my kid, and my husband over “many kids”, and/ or “many husbands”
Post # 76
I take care of my own, first and foremost. I don’t think it sounds bad either. We all protect our own, its how we survive. I don’t even honestly know, if I saw my family first, I don’t think I’d ever even see the bus at all.