(Closed) Who would you save?

posted 9 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Who would you save?


    My unborn child

    Myself, but only if we had other children already

  • Post # 3
    3686 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    My husband and I have had this conversation, and he always says he would save me.  His thoughts are that we could always have more children, but he could never replace his wife.

    I used to say that I would prefer they save the baby, but now that we have kids, I’ve changed my mind.  I couldn’t imagine leaving my husband alone with 3 kids to raise. 

    Post # 4
    1319 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I can’t choose, sorry 🙁 It makes me too sad even going there but then I’m preggers & emotional!

    Post # 5
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    *sigh* tough one..we haven’t talked about it but i know what my DH would say – he would save me everytime. Because there’s still the chance of having another baby. I would say save me, too, though it would break my heart and put me through misery..

    Post # 6
    1175 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I was going to say it would depend on the situation, but it really doesn’t. Even if we would have to terminate the pregnancy knowing, in that situation, I couldn’t get pregnant again, we could always adopt. We can figure out a way to have more children, my future husband can’t just find another wife.

    Post # 7
    3441 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If I say myself am I selfish? I love my baby girl already but I couldn’t imagin leaving my husband alone to raise her. He would fall apart and I imagine be depressed and don’t know how great of father he would be, I’m not saying this just because of me but I know him and his personality. Leaving my husband alone and my daughter without a mother is nothing I would ever chose. I don’t know if I would ever emotionally recover and would probably needs years of therapy but at some point DH and I could rebuild our family.

    Post # 8
    3982 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @Mrsluckywife:  Same here!

    Geez, i’ve never given much thought to it but seeing as i’m halway through my frist pregnancy this is probably a discussion my husband an I should have. Thanks for bringing it up!

    Post # 9
    3786 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m currently pregnant (31 weeks) and right now I’d want them to save the baby. If something happened, we chose to focus on saving me and we lost our son….I’d be distraught. Especially knowing that I made that decision. I already love this little guy so much I just couldn’t imagine it. I think it would break me. I love my husband so much and hate the idea of potentially leaving him alone to raise our son but my son’s life is really precious to me.


    We had this discussion a long time ago and my husband at that time said that he’d want to save me. We haven’t had it recently (since I’ve been pregnant) so I’m not sure if he still feels the same way.

    Post # 10
    1193 posts
    Bumble bee

    No kids, not pregnant but I would say me… Like a previous poster said, you can try for more children but you only have 1 wife.My husband would agree. I know it would be harder on my husband to loose me than an unborn child. Would still be heartbreaking though..

    Post # 11
    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think this becomes a non-question once you’ve carried the baby. By the time you get to delivery, every instinct tells you to save the baby. I had a very difficult delivery with my son (my first born nearly 22 yrs ago) after much TTC and infertility.  I ended up with an emergency C-section and I remember grabbing my husband’s shirt and opening my eyes (I was exhausted and could barely do even that) and telling him to make sure they got that baby out alive – not at all about my life at that point. Fortunately we were both OK but it was close.

    Once you have children, there’s never a choice to make -it’s always their lives first.

    Post # 12
    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I used to feel the way your husband did, before I was madly in love with my fiance. But he and I both agree that we can always make another baby but we can’t make another me. As simple as that.

    Post # 13
    3631 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    It might make me a horrible person, but I would choose me. Like others have said, I can’t imagine DH trying to raise a kid alone and while one could never replace the baby.you lost, there is still the oppritunties for more kids, I hope I would be hard to replac

    Post # 14
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No kids, not pregnant, not TTC but I said I would save myself. I actually do have health issues that would put me at risk if I ever decided to give birth and have chosen to NOT give birth ever due to these risks. However, if I ever did become pregnant and did decide to give birth and the doctor’s fears happened and it was me or the baby Fiance knows that I would save myself over the child, so this is something that he and I have actually discussed. 

    Post # 16
    6377 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m not pregnant nor have I ever had a child so this has never really been a concern of ours but we have discussed it. We’ve both agreed that if it came down to it, I would be saved. Honestly, neither of us even really thought about it since I would be the obvious choice and no, I don’t think our opinions will change when our time does come to have a child.

    For starters, my husband wouldn’t want to raise our child on his own. That baby would be a constant reminder of what he lost and that’s a whole lot for someone to deal with. From the man’s perspective, it would be tragic to lose an unborn child so late in the game, but I think it would be even more tragic to lose his wife. That’s the person he vowed to spend the rest of his life with and there’s really no replacing her. There could very well be more babies but once she’s gone, that’s it. Sure, he could potentially move on and have children with someone else but if that’s the mentality that the man has going into that situation, that woman deserves a whole lot better than him. 

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