- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2009
Ok, I have what might be considered a classic conundrum. Or not. I don’t know. I’m not a wedding expert. When I made my guest list, I had various factions adding parties to it–mostly my parents and Future In-Laws. Totally fine. Mostly because they swore up and down that the people they were adding were courtesy invites and wouldn’t actually come. Then, right after we got engaged, Fiance and I moved to a new city and met a new group of people and so we added some of them to the list, in addition to our friends from home. We kind of figured that the ones living here would come and the ones from back home likely would not because they’re so far away and are broke, recent college grads. In order to determine how many people we could reasonably expect, we did some detective work and then made a list of the people that would probably show up. We used the word “probably” very loosely…as in…if they might, possibly, in any scenario show up, we put them as a yes. Those that we knew with fair certainty would not make it, we put as a no. If we just weren’t sure, we put them as a yes, because I figured over-estimating our yes-es was safer than under-estimating them. Well. Invites went out two weeks ago. And wouldn’t you know it, but some of our DEFINITELY nots are DEFINITELY coming. Whaaaaaaat? But they just loved the invitation and our website is so adorable and they really want to celebrate with us and they love us so much. Well, WAY TO PULL AT MY HEART STRINGS, people! I would REALLY like to be upset that we’re looking at having so many extras–but they’re all just so genuinely thrilled for us and pouring love at us from every direction, that I can’t manage to be anything but a little teary. I couldn’t have imagined that this many people would want to celebrate this with us. We’ll have been together for 6 years by the time we get married (in 80 days!!), and we’ve been living together for about a year and a half, and I was worried that the wedding would be anti-climactic. But it doesn’t feel that way at all. So yes. I’m PANICKED about the extra people. I don’t have enough tables or chairs. I haven’t purchased enough materials for more centerpieces. Our catering budget is about to go through the ROOF. My darling father is paying for the wedding and I have nearly lost my mind trying to keep the budget low–he seems to be taking this in stride, saying that if my worst problem on the wedding day is that a TON of people showed up to support our marriage, I’m probably doing okay. And in the midst of my planning meltdown, I think he’s right.