Post # 1
I guess a mix of being under the wedding planning pressure and that the response I was given after letting my close friends and family know our wedding date just hit a nerve in the worst way.
Heres the comment that sent me over the edge…
“sorry, but don’t know what that days holds for me in 2012” ON MY FACEBOOK!
ummmmm what!? thanks =(
So I wrote back: “thats why we gave lots of notice so people could mark this on their calendars and come without anything else already planned for that day =)”
Another friend then liked my comment back to the other girl and she then says she’s not coming.
That’s where I kind of lost it… Ok I definitely lost it. Then I said:
“I guess if people really want to come they will put this on their calendar and then this is what that date will hold.. and anything else that were to come along they would say they have a wedding to attend. Were spending a lot of money to make this night special for us and our friends and family, to be invited should be an honor not a chore”
Am I over the line? =(
Post # 3
@HappilyEverAfter54:KUDOS!!!! yes!!! no you were not over the line (however maybe not on fb) but i loved what you said!!!
Post # 4
I think you probably should’ve just left it alone when she said she wasn’t coming. I understand your side of things though and it probably would’ve ticked me off too…just try to let it go and be happy that such a negative person won’t be coming to your wedding:)
Post # 5
Haha you kickass. FB is totally not the right outlet for this, but that girl needed a reality check- BAD.
Post # 6
i really don’t think you were over the line…It’s ridiculous that someone would say that about a date a year away. You worded it very well. and it’s the truth!
Post # 7
@mg1363: Oh I wouldn’t had said anything if she said it in person/ on the phone or in a private message but she put it on my wall which was just a jaw dropping moment for me. I guess it was the public rejection that got to me the most. =( I’m sad now that I wasn’t the bigger person but I acted so fast without thinking.
@MrsStrawberry24: Thank you. I’m glad you don’t think it was too harsh. I wish she would have kept that off my wall but better to know now then after I sent her an invitation.
Post # 8
I thik you were over the line- two wrongs don’t make a right as my mother was so fond of saying. But, she clearly was not prepared to commit to your wedding date on her calendar.
If she’s hoping for a better invitation, her calendar is now free.
Post # 9
Oh my god. The nerve of people! No you were definitely not out of line. Good for you! And she could have at the very least private messaged you to say no. But I don’t think there’s any adequate excuse this early in the timeline unless it was her wedding. That sucks it had to done in a public way like that! I would defriend her in fb and in “real life” haha
Post # 10
Oh wow….how inconsiderate of your friends! I cannot blame you at all for reacting like that. Um, hello?! That’s why you were letting people know in ADVANCE. Your wedding should be the only thing that day should hold for those people. They could at least be positive and supportive on your facebook even if they’re not sure they’re coming. I’m giving a sympathetic ::sigh:: right now for you!
Post # 11
i dont think your response was a high point of your day – i would delete it if it was me
Post # 12
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Thank you and I agree, she really does!
@Mrs.Lonestar: Thank you and I tried to get my point across without any swears even though my mind was screaming lots of harsh things =(
@julies1949: Very true and I know 2 wrongs don’t make a right it just came out as fast as the comment came in.
Post # 13
@eloping: I wish I could “Like” this on Weddingbee.
Post # 14
@Melie12: The defriend option makes me smile inside. I think I should only because posting it publicly she wanted people to see that she wasn’t coming but I don’t know why… On the other hand I feel like I’d be defriending her because she doesn’t want to come to my wedding- which is not the case at all.
@MissMarriage: Thank you- that was my exact thought.
@eloping: yes I know but she already had read it. No one else will now (or her original comment).
Post # 15
@HappilyEverAfter54: Oh I would worry that too. Besides, I don’t have the kahunas to do that so soon anyways. 🙂 But maybe just maybe she will see the light and apologize for her unsupportive and rude behavior. 😉
Post # 16
Other people that read it might think you crossed the line, because that’s how FB is, but I have to hand it to you….kudos for speaking your mind! And let it be a lesson to those that want to RSVP ‘NO’ nearly a year in advance on FB to your wedding!