Post # 1
So, 99.5% of my family lives down south 1,000 miles away. My wedding will be in CT and Im struggling to get all of my family to come up. I swear I have the weirdest most uncooperative family ever. I mean half of them are afraid to travel so far and some are saying that financially they may not be able to afford it. Remind you-my wedding is 6/1/13 a little under 2 years. This is starting to hurt and frustrate me to the point that I dont even want to go thru with the wedding, I just want to go to the JOP. I just can imagine spending so much money for a wedding that majorty of his family will be to. My FH doesnt understand why this topic is so touchy to me but it is. Am I overreacting?
Post # 3
NO! You are absolutely NOT overreacting! I wish I could come up there and hug you, because I KNOW what you’re going through! I’m down here in Texas, and all of MY family live in Iowa. My fiance and I would like to get married here in Houston, but my mom is being really unsupportive about the whole thing. It’s kinda been one of those “Well… it’s your decision. I’m not mad, BUT I’m not happy about it either…” sorta things.
It’s hard to get family (especially those who are just stuck in their ways) to travel far away- especially when they aren’t financially capable. Have you thought about maybe planning a 2nd reception, or an engagement party or something where your family lives? That might help to ease the stress a little, and make everyone feel like they’re included and important, especially for those who might have a hard time making it there for the wedding.
Hope things start looking up soon! Hang in there, it will all work itself out and things will start falling into place!
Post # 4
I can totally sympathize, except I’m reversed… My entire family lives in CT and RI and I live (and am getting married in) Texas.
My family does not like to travel and/or can’t afford it. We are getting married sooner than you, but even if they had 3 years it wouldn’t change the fact that they hate to travel…
What it came down to for me was that if they weren’t willing to make that sacrifice (financial reasons aside, because that is completely understandable!), no matter how much I love them, then it isn’t worth having them at the wedding anyway. At the end of the day it is about me and my fiance vowing to spend the rest of our lives together… That said, we are planning a small casual party up north after the wedding so everyone who couldn’t make it can still celebrate with us.
Maybe that is something you could do to incorporate your relatives down south?
Try not to let it get to you and spoil your day… Once you get over this hump (and you will!) you will feel a lot better!!
Post # 5
@Kamazing: I am sorry! 🙁 I hope it works out so that you can celebrate with your family as well. I also think your Fiance needs to understand this as soon as possible. What’s so hard to understand? Your own family may not be there. 🙁
Besides my immediate family, no one from my side is coming. And yes, it hurts. My guy understands though and is sad with me whenver I am down about it.
But life goes on. 🙁 Whether they come or not, it’s still a day about us coming together and being one family. I certainly pray it works out for you somehow though. Maybe as the wedding comes closer your family will realize how much they want to be there makes every other problem pale in comparison!
Post # 6
Thanks ladies for all of your support and kind words. Im praying that I overcome this and just focus on whats most important here, like you ladies mentioned. Its just very hurtful considering the fact that I made sacrafices for 2 of my family members weddings in 2007 (the weddings were 2 weeks apart). My daughter was a flower girl and I was a bridesmaid in both weds and I had to travel to GA to accomodate them and their weddings. And they both planned their weddings in 8 months so I had a shorter notice!