Post # 1
I have gone by my middle name my whole life. This confuses people more often than it should, and it’s a hassle. Anytime I’m in a situation where someone sees my name on paper first, such as in school, at doctors’ offices, or government offices, that means I’m either stuck in a situation where their first impression is of me correcting them–which can make them think I’m fussy–or I just shrug and let them call me something that my parents never did. (The first name is a family name, and would have sounded weird as a middle name. I love the way my name sounds as a whole, and First Middle together is fine, but they always just say First.)
So anyway, I’ve always known that once I get married, I’ll change from First Middle Maiden to Middle Maiden Married. I’ve asked two friends of mine, who both changed their names at marriage and are lawyers in my state, and they don’t think that I’ll have to get a court order.
I had a heck of a time trying to Google the issue, and the only site I’ve found that says anything about it was here. It indicates that, in my state, the SSA won’t accept marriage as a valid reason for a legal name change. I have contacted the SSA and am waiting to hear back about their requirements.
The thought of having to change my name via court order sounds awful and makes me a bit sick to my stomach, to be honest.
TL;DR: Does anyone else have experience with changing/shifting all 3 names, or dealing with a court order to change your name?
Post # 3
Update: The SSA told me that they can put whatever the marriage certificate says, which means it depends on where I get married.
I’m getting married in FL, and when I contacted the local clerk of courts, the answer I got from the woman on the phone was: “I have no idea if you can do that, but it will only have your maiden name on the certificate.” She told me to contact the clerk of courts in my home state of Georgia, even though I told her that the process only involves them if I need a court order.
The Department of Drivers’ Services here in GA will take whatever the SSA takes, and by my understanding, if there’s no new name listed on the marriage certificate specifically, the SSA will take anything so long as it’s derived from a combination of my name and his name.
So it sounds like I’m good to go, maybe? I can’t believe this is such a difficult question to answer. I know I’m not the first person to have this problem!
I think I might get a notarized letter from my parents affirming that they have called me by my middle name since my birth, just to have proof in the most legal way I can think of that I’m known by my middle name. They will think this is silly, and they’ll be right.
Post # 4
Did you find anything? I have the same problem but in SC. I can’t find any answers either. I just know I will NEVER call my child by his/her middle. I love both my names but it is such a pain in the butt all through school and on job applications, etc. I am going to research this this weekend and let you know if i find anything.
I am also moving to TN when I get married but I don’t know whether I need to change my name here first then move states or what or whether I can change my name and moves states at the same time.
Post # 5
I’m 100% sure that this can be done but not sure if you have to do anything extra. One of my coworkers did what u are describing and she did not have to have a court order. I don’t know that there were any extra steps involved but I doubt it because she changed her name on her nursing license pretty quickly and that was the last step after dl and ssa.
Post # 6
One of my former bosses did exactly what you’re planning to do. I think it’s a great idea for someone like you, who is known by her middle and maiden name. Unfortunately, I don’t know whether or not her change required a court order.
I can say that, in the state in which I was married, only my maiden name appears on my marriage certificate, and I had no problem at all going from First Middle Maiden to First Maiden Hislast. I do not know what, if any, further requirements the SSA may have required for me to have dropped my first name, however.
Post # 7
So I have an answer now. I just got married and went to get my name changed at the social security office ( you have to do that first) and they couldn’t do it without a court order. It didn’t matter what I had been called my whole life or anything. I could change my middle name to my maiden name, I could add his last name, I could drop my maiden name but I could NOT change anything to do with my first name at all.