Post # 1
So a little backstory
Mom and dad married. Had me. Dad cheated on mom. THey divorced. Dad married woman he cheated on mom with. They had two kids( my brothers). Dad and step mom divorced.
I want to invite my brothers to the wedding. I dont see them often at all, but i would like for them to come. Is it rude to send an invite to their house ( which they live with my ex step mom and her family) only inviting my two brothers?
They should understand that i dont want their mom at the wedding right???
Post # 3
Whoa. That is super tricky. I would think that given all that backstory, it’d be pretty clear why your brothers, and only your brothers, are invited to the wedding.
Perhaps the question here is (and forgive me if this is too personal), what kind of divorce did your dad and stepmom have? Amicable, or not so pretty? What I’m trying to get at here is, will it be okay with your dad to invite your brothers? And not to invite their mother?
Post # 4
I don’t think that’s rude at all. They are your brothers. She isn’t your family any more.
Post # 5
I see no problem with it.
Post # 6
I say address it just to them. Not rude at all.
Post # 7
I don’t see a problem with it. It’s essentially the same as adult friends who still live with their parents. I wouldn’t invite the parents just because my friend happened to live with them.
Post # 8
Gemstone im actaully not sure of my dad and ex steps mom relationship. I know my brothers see my dad a few times a month. I do know my mom would not be ok with her there.
@Lia very good point!!!!!
I just didnt want it to seem rude to not invite anyone else in the household. Thank you for your opinions bees!
Post # 9
@Jen51287: Tricky one. But I have to agree with PPs, I think it would be ok to go ahead and invite them. Sorry it’s such a sticky situation =/
Post # 10
I’m guessing you never had a good relationship with this homewrecker of a stepmom. So I think she will understand why she’s not invited. And if she’s offended, oh well. That’s her problem.
Post # 11
@Jen51287: If they are old enought o come on their own, then perfectly fine, but if they are younger and would need supervision then no not okay.