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posted 11 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t have much advice to give you but to just spend some time this weekend thinking, talking and being with each other. I am so sorry you had a miscarriage and I can totally see how that would be in the back (or front!) of your mind right now.


Post # 4
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh no, honey! Well I can imagine you’re going "wtf, SHHHHTTTT" right now and all the 4-letter words that go with it. Congrats, though! 

Hey at least you’re already married, LoL. Bright side of things?

Take another preggo test. Just to be sure it’s not a false positive. 

I don’t have any advice, but hopefully everything works out ok. I can’t imagine having a miscarriage ever, I just know they happen for a reason. If it happens again though, i recommend seeing a specialist b/c there might be something quirky up with your uterus. Otherwise, hopefully it was a one-time thing. Arm yourself with some information to see if that calms your anxiety about this next one. I know lots of people have had babies on very little money. It’s doable. Do you have family near you? What are you trying to find a job in?

Don’t tell anyone yet. I’m a huge advocate of waiting a little bit. 

Sending hugs your way!  *inserting yahoo hug emoticon*

Post # 5
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I have two children and it seemed like I got pregnant at the worst possible time (1st one when I was way too young and we weren’t financially stable, secind one right after I found out ex was cheating and we had decided to divorce).  I will tell you that it will work out no matter what, it did in my case.

Good luck.

Post # 7
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Try to focus on the positives. Just because you had one in the past doesn’t mean you’ll have another bad experience. Don’t let it ruin this for you!

So the more you barf the better off you are? LoL goodbye honeymoon pounds, right?

Post # 8
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

*big hugs* First off, congrats on your wedding, and now your little "surprise". I, personally, don’t have kids. But I know tons of girls who do.

I don’t have any advice, but like LittleBear said, spend time with your DH to talk about it and everything. I’m sorry that you had had a miscarriage a while back, but…things happen. Maybe there was a reason. I’m glad that the chance is low now. I wish you a healthy pregnancy, and a healthy baby.

You mentioned about being out of a job, and such. If you think about it dear…No matter how much people "plan" on children after they feel that they are ready, no one is ever really prepared for it. Times will be tough, but there is always a silver lining to every cloud. When my parents had me, and I was a surprise too, they struggled. They even had to live with my dad’s parents for a while. But they made it, 25 years and two daughters later. 

I know none of this made sense. But…. more hugs!

Post # 9
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Serious HUGS lady! I don’t know what your values are, and I don’t mean to offend, but it doesn’t look like anyone else has brought up the possibility that having a baby is still a choice at this point.  If you don’t feel that it is, then I wish you and your husband the best in planning for the new babe’s arrival, and can honestly tell you that I know many many people who start out their pregnancy absolutely scared to death of how on earth they’re going to be parents in less than a year, and by the time the baby is born they feel completely differently. 

Talk through your fears with your husband and work together to decide the right path for you.  And go to the doctor to be sure you are pregnant ASAP so you can get some peace of mind on the health/stability of the pregnancy. 


Post # 10
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have no advice, only words of congratulations ๐Ÿ™‚ Being a "surprise" myself (although my parents weren’t married and never did marry) I can tell you that it will work out. You’re bringing this child into a loving home, complete with two parents who will love him or her very much. Wait off on telling anyone, just enjoy this time with your new hubby. Luckily you found out now so you can take care of yourself properly in this most critical time. My mom didn’t find out until she was 3 months along. But hey, I turned out alright ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck and again, congratulations!!

Post # 11
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m so sorry you can’t enjoy this moment right now! Hang in there.


You don’t have to tell anyone but him for the first three months!

Also, what has been your method of bc?? 

 You’ll get through this. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Oh sweetie, I ‘m sorry this is causing you stress and anxiety.  Just sit with it for awhile (with your husband).  You don’t have to tell anyone, but I would suggest a visit to your Ob/Gyn just to take one set of worries off the table.  They’ll do a serum hcg and an initial assessment to make sure you are healthy.

Hive hug!

Post # 13
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It will all work out…somehow…I know it will!! 

Post # 14
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I know this seems really scary and overwhelming, but deifnitely congrats!  I totally understand that you might be even more scared about this pregnancy because your fears about it not being the right time are also compounded by your fears of another miscarriage.  Definitely take doctorgirl’s advice and talk to your doctor.  Other than that, just take a little time for the news to really sink in.  You probably have a million different emotions running through your head right now, but once you have some time to calm down, I’ll bet you’ll be able to think a lot more clearly.  And over the course of nine months, you’ll have tons of time to build up all the excitement and joy that a baby brings!  Yay, you’re having a baby! 

Post # 15
2640 posts
Sugar bee

It’s a lot to take in.  You just got married to boot.  Congrats.  Everything will work out. 

And yes, I heard too, that the more mornnig sickness you get, the healthier (supposedly) the pregnancy is.  Something about getting rid of potential toxins.  They also say the more morning sickness you get, he more likely it is to be a girl.  (Old wives tale, but so true for me.  and a lot of people I know.)

Post # 16
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

First off, congrats! Second, do not worry about $. You will be able to support this baby, because all you REALLY need is a carseat {if you live in a city where you drive that is}, a crib and some clothes. Do your parents have your old crib? If not, Ikea sells really cute, cheap ones. Start buying diapers every other week starting at about 6 months, so you’ll have a good supply. Buy newborn, 1’s and a couple of packs of twos. PM me if you want to chat about it, I’d be happy to talk you down off the ledge. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Oh and go buy some PNV from Target. They’re just as good as anything the doc will ‘script you and cheaper. Oh and they’re coated so you won’t get sick!

Oh and I was never sick a day of my pregnancy and I have a happy and healthy 5 year old girl! 

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