(Closed) whoops – dropped a whopper!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know it won’t make you feel better, but it’s not your fault. There’s no reasonable way you could have known the situation between the two of them. And you didn’t encourage the guy to bend the truth (if not outright lie).

If they’ve got a solid relationship, they’ll work through this, and if they don’t, this was not the killing blow.

Post # 4
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Unless you were told to cover (which I still dont think is right) its not your fault. Its the husbands problem for not being upfront.

Post # 5
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4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Don’t beat yourself up over this. You had no way of knowing this guy lied to his wife about what went on!

Post # 6
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2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Not your issue , you did nothing wrong – perhaps you are saving her from future heartache

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

yah, this is TOTALLY not your fault.  you didn’t maliciously tell her and it’s his fault for lying to her to being with. 

Post # 9
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2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think you did anything wrong. You had no idea this guy never told his wife, and if he’s on his “last warning” then maybe it’s good that she knows what he’s up to- I’d rather know something like that than think everything was okay when the guy was really lying.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Most of us don’t feel that way….you did nothing wrong. He should have told her the truth.

Post # 11
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ticatica: It will be alright… You didnt know and it was not your fault

 

Post # 12
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4367 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You didn’t do anything wrong.  It’s a shame this other person’s SO couldn’t be honest with her.  Don’t feel bad.

Post # 13
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2232 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You did nothing wrong. He should have told her in the first place or not gone at all. 

 

Post # 14
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1527 posts
Bumble bee

Definitely not your fault they don’t tell each other things like that. And that’s something they’ll need to work on in their relationship. He can really only blame himself for making the decision to do something and lie to his wife. 

Post # 15
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1365 posts
Bumble bee

Mega-not your fault. You just have a lovely, open and honest relationship. Unlucky for her that she doesn’t too – but it’s not your problem and you weren’t to know. Why would you assume that her husband lied to her? You’d assume honesty.

Post # 16
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Sorry but he’s a shit head. Not you.

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