(Closed) Who’s changing their name?

posted 11 years ago in Names
  • poll: What last name will you have after you are married?

    Mine

    His

    A new combination of a name for both of us or we are both changing our names

    Hyphen or my middle name is my maiden name and his is my last name

  • Post # 17
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    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    His, because it is important to him. My last name is always spelled wrong and misprounced, and his is easy.

    Post # 18
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    He left it up to me, but I am happy to take his name. Strangely enough, before I met him, when I considered this question in the abstract, I always thought I would keep my name.

    Post # 19
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    3331 posts
    Sugar bee

    I changed my name, but I still haven’t gotten used to my new name yet.  I decided to change it because I had my dad’s last name.  I don’t have a relationship with my dad at all, so I felt more comfortable associating myself with my husband rather than my "dad".  A friend of mine said I was "choosing the name of the man I picked, instead of the one I got stuck with" which I kinda liked. 😉  

    I think it would have been really hard for me to decide if I had had my mom’s last name.  FWIW, I think my husband was happy I changed, but wouldn’t have cared less if I hadn’t done it.  He left it up to me completely, which took some of the pressure off. 

    Post # 20
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    299 posts
    Helper bee

    I don’t really want his last name, to be frank, hah and he knows that- it’s mostly because I’m one of two daughters and we have a family business (my Dad’s, and he is extremely important to me), so I have more pride in my last name than I would with his, which might sound bad, but hell there are so many men in his family that the name is being passed on quite adequately, as opposed to mine, which is basically the end of the line if I change it. So, I might hyphenate, my last in front of his, but that’s a maybe- if I don’t do that I won’t take it at all. The boy is not concerned about it either way!

    Post # 21
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    512 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m taking my current last name as a second middle name, and taking his last name.  He will be doing the same (having a second middle name of my last name).

    Post # 22
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    49 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i will hyphenate my name and sign with my middle initial, maiden initial, and his last name to shorten it up on my behalf.

    Post # 23
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    251 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1990

    I am very sad at the thought of losing my last name, which I cherish.  However, my husband, despite being very traditional, agrees that hyphenating is a good idea professionally as I have established business under my name.

    I’ve tried adjusting my viewpoint- I’m not losing any of me, I’m adding just another part of me to my life.

    Post # 24
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    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I’m proud of my family, but I’m definitely taking my fiance’s last name. I see it as a way to honor him and show him that I’m proud to be joining my life to his.

    Post # 25
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    50 posts
    Worker bee

    I’ll be taking his 🙂 He brought it up a couple of months ago and I told him I was planning on taking his last name. He seemed surprised

    Post # 26
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    512 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Im hyphenating beside his protest but i think he jokes about it. I have my degrees in my last name & not to mention one of four girls – so someone has to carry the name on just in case. I also like the idea b/c he’s an attorney as well so perhaps if its someone he’s been nice to they might realize I am his wife & be nice back, when i started practicing in the same courts lol – he has a very unique last name for living in south florida – so hopefully he’s been nice to others lol.

    Post # 27
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    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I’ll be hyphenating so that together I’ll have the 2 most difficult names in the planet! lol…just kidding, I’m keeping my super complicated last name only because it means a lot to my family, and I’m taking his even more complicated last name because I’m really proud of being his future wife.

    Post # 28
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    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I’m not one you’d call traditional but for some reason taking his last name is something I really feel is important to me. Of course trading my loooong annoying Polish last name for a nice 4-letter last name was also good incentive.  😉

    Post # 29
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    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    we’re still in talks about the last name situation. Right now we’re discussing taking a name from our heritage that hasn’t been passed down to the current generation. I would LOVE to take his last name, but he is hyphenated and it’s a mouthful. I feel awful for not wanting to take on his last name but I am more of a short name, nick name girl. Taking on a hyphenated last name that no one can ever spell or always gets wrong. People are always getting his last name wrong. They usually drop one of the names and just call him by his Dad’s last name. 

    Post # 30
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    2560 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I am going to hyphenate, he isn’t comfortable with it, but is considering changing his middle name to my last name so I would be Jennifer Anne Mylast-Hislast and he would be Troy Mylast Hislast

    Post # 31
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    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I always thought I’d keep my name (but was never super-passionate about it) but when it came time to decide, I loved him so much that it didn’t even matter one ounce anymore. He wanted me to change it but he wouldn’t have gotten really mad if I didn’t.

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