Post # 32
We haven’t come to a decision yet. Fiance wants me to take his name [but I think it sounds awful after my given name] & I’d like to keep my last name as I’m partial to it being part of my heritage.
We’ve considered a hyphen or some such, but my maiden name is fairly long, hard to pronouce and often needs to be spelled out for people. I am of the opinion that it just sounds silly with both.
Yesterday I asked [only half jokingly] if he, or anyone else would be mad/offended if I took my MIL’s surname.[different from FIL’s].
I don’t think he took the joke too well! :O
I think that is a really good idea, and a great way to incorporate family history.
Post # 33
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
I will take his, but add my maiden to my middle.
I will miss it though! haha
Post # 34
I don’t know why – but I can’t wait to get rid of my last name. Seriously. It would be weird to me to keep it even when I’m married … as it stands I’m 22 and don’t have a career reason for keeping my name.
And I’m not entirely interested in hyphenating … my last name is entirely too long! And I like my middle name too much to keep it …
Post # 35
I’ve never been wild about my last name, but I’m keeping it. I respect others’ feelings and decisions, but for me, I can’t see a reason to change my name (and I really, really hate the historical reasons this originally happened, and I think I would have a hard time living with that).
We thought about both hyphenating, but quickly realised we both liked and valued our own names too much as part of our personal and professional identities
So I’m keeping mine and he’s keeping his. He said he would have been surprised if I had planned to change my name! Any kids will have both our names, hyphenated — it sounds great and isn’t too cumbersome. .
Post # 36
I still haven’t decided. I’m pretty attached to my name, but I feel like part of becoming our own unit is having the same last night. i wish we could make up our own but he has 3 major degrees with his already on in, so he wouldn’ change his.
Post # 37
I am REALLY looking forward to taking his last name!
Post # 38
I’m taking his. I just filed Monday for SS card, that starts the process.
Post # 39
I deliberated about this for MONTHS. I was trying to decide if I wanted to drop my middle and put my Maiden as my middle, or just drop my maiden entirely. I really didn’t want to part with my maiden, but we’re both Greek, and have long Greek last names, so it sounded so much nicer if I just dropped my maiden and kept my middle. In the excitement immediately after the wedding, I gave it like zero thought (Esp compared to how much I initialy deliberated!) and I just dropped my last name! I was so excited for his! Now, 3 weeks later, my cards are all coming in, my SS card came, got my license… and I miss my last name 🙁 I wish I kept it as a middle!! I LOVE seeing his name as my new last.. but.. I’m still sorta sad!!!
Post # 40
I don’t have a middle name so I will use my maiden name as my middle name and use is name. Where I am from you CAN’T change your name so a lot of people don’t understand my decision.
Post # 41
I just decided last night to take his. I don’t really care for his…it kinda rhymes with my first name. BUT my last name (Italian…)hyphentated with his was just too long. I also didn’t really want to keep mine…mainly because I would like to have the same name that my children do. I was a little hesitant since I am an encore bride and didn’t want to deal with people who say anything about me changing my name again…
Post # 42
PS: I just started the name changing process yesterday. There’s just a lot of work to be done. You would think by now they would make it easier since people have been marrying and changing names for centuries now…sheesh.
Post # 43
My last name from birth is already hyphenated, so this is a no-brainer for me. 🙂 I am taking his and dropping my entire last name like a hot rock. You can’t have 3 hyphens in a last name (and the people at the DMV already argue with me about where my marriage license in when I tell them that’s my maiden name). Ladies, whatever you do – please, PLEASE don’t give your children hyphenated last names. As a girl who grew up with one, it’s awful, hard to spell and confuses everybody. 🙂
Post # 44
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I’m using his. I’m going to have a ridiculously, ridiculously french last name.
Post # 45
When I was younger, I always assumed that I would never give up my last name – I love it SO much. Long, difficult to pronounce and Italian. Excellent!! But my FI’s last name is also Italian. It’s not long or too hard to pronounce, but I’m just as proud of his name as I am of my own. After reading all of your comments, though, I have decided to add my maiden name to my middle name and take his last name.
I, too, want to be a unit – one – family. So, I want us to have the same last name, and since I’m pretty traditional on some things, we’re going with his. I’m not sad at all. I have a very good peace about it.
Post # 46
I am probably one of the last (if not the last) of my generation to be able to carry on my name. My last name is important to me, not because it’s particularly interesting or unusual, but because it reperesents an important legacy to me. I’ve already informed my SO I am not planning to change my name, and I can’t really ask him to take mine because his first name is a part of my last name (hilarious, I know) and that would just be silly. Although sort of appropos considering he is part Norwegian and Scandinavians do things like name their kids “Anders Anderson.” We have preliminarily decided not to have kids, but if we change our minds, it will be an interesting discussion on whose last names the kids will have… tee hee.