- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Just wanted your opinion on the latest in rehearsal dinner etiquette. My FI’s family offered to host the Rehearsal Dinner the night before our big day. I was very happy they were generous enough to take on the task and they actually ended up picking a restaurant that was one i had secretly wished they were going to pick.
As I reviewed the list of attendees for the rehearsal dinner with my Future Mother-In-Law, I realized that she did not intend to include the spouses (husbands/wives) of the 4 bridal party members (out of 40) who will be travelling from out of state with their spouses to be in our wedding. When I mentioned the spouses, she offered to allow them to attend the dinner, but wanted the bridal party member to pay for their spouse out of their own pocket.
What do you guys think of this? Is it rude to invite Bridal Party members to a dinner meant to say “thank you” and then, if they bring their wife / husband, ask them to bring $$ to pay for them?
In my opinion, I would rather ask them to leave their SO’s at the hotel so that they wouldn’t have that akward “Please give us your $35 for your wfie” discussion.
Our bridal party members have gone above and beyond for us, so I wouldn’t expect the 4/40 to have to pay anything for their dinner just to have their loved one come along.
Another option would be for my Fiance and I to just give the extra $$ to the Future Mother-In-Law for the extra 4 people so that she is satisfied and won’t nickel and dime our friends during a fun event.
What do you guys think?