(Closed) Who’s doing speeches at your reception?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

The Best Man did a short toast and my sister Maid/Matron of Honor did a longer toast/speech… otherwise we tried to keep the whole thing short =)

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oh I want to know too!

The best man and Maid/Matron of Honor will each do a short toast and my uncle is doing a blessing before dinner.

Do my parents give a speech? (They are technically hosting) Do we give a speech? (I don’t really want to…..)

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I’ve really only ever seen the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor give them. We definitely didn’t!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Only the Bridesmaid or Best Man. My MOH/sister doesn’t enjoy public speaking, and neither do I so I figured if she didn’t have to speak at my wedding I won’t have to at hers.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m curious about this, too. Do other bridesmaids and groomsmen do speeches (if they want) in addition to Bridesmaid or Best Man and MOH?

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Darling Husband did a thank you for coming speech (under 1 minute), right after we were introduced and right before our first dance.  Then my father did a speech (1 minute) right before dinner began. Then the MOH (2min) and then the Bridesmaid or Best Man (2min). I gave them each a time limit. So that it didn’t take too long and guests weren’t bored.  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Grandpa is doing grace before dinner, my parents are doing a speech, his parents are as well, then the Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man are doing one together, then we are going to give one.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We are doing ours 5-10 min into the dinner. First my Dad, then the Best Woman and Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ours will be the normal Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor, and then we will give a thanks for coming and supporting us.  I think it is very important that the bride and/or groom say something, people came to share your special day, the least you can do is say thanks!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@funkyone8604: I should probably start my own thread on this, but if we are planning on going table to table saying hi and thanking our guests, should Fiance and I still say something? I’d prefer not to, but also don’t want to be rude…

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

As of now I’m expecting only our Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor to give a speech. I’ve been to weddings where it seemed like every close family member had their chance at the mic and it was hooooorrible. FI and I will probably say a few words at some point too, but it will be short and sweet. I assume my Future Father-In-Law will give a speech at the rehearsal dinner and maybe my parents will chime in then as well.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

@TinyTina: I think the bride and groom giving a toast/welcome/thank you speech is optional, as long as you are planning to greet each of your guests and chat with them a little.  Going around to each table is much more personal, and if you’re doing that I don’t think it’s necessary to also do a general “Thanks for coming, guys” over the microphone.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen the bride speak formally at any wedding I’ve been to.  I’ve been to one or two where the groom toasted the bride, which was sweet, but usually it’s the Bridesmaid or Best Man, Maid/Matron of Honor, and the fathers of the bride and groom making the toasts.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s optional for the bride and groom to speak but we are opting to do it, because we feel strongly about publically thanking our parents (not just for the day because the monetary contributions range between all the parents and also we paid a lot ourselves) but just for life in general and helping us to reach our wedding day.  We will also briefly thank the guests for coming.  I’m sure I’ll say “thank you for coming” 500 times that day but why not really drive it home?  Then again, I’m very comfortable with speaking haha.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh, but to address the actual OP, my grandfather is giving the blessing over the bread, and the best man will be doing a speech, and then one of my friends (not in the wedding party but a close friend and talented writer and speaker) will also be giving a speech.  MOH was not into giving a speech.

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