(Closed) Who’s felt guilty about being disapointed?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@KoalaWalla: Yes, I have. The main thing is that you love and appreciate what he did choose for you…it’s a lovely gift, too. But yes, I have had that disappointment when I expected …maybe a ring…and my boyfriend gave me something else (that was wonderful, too)…

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think that is normal. I used to get excited and hope that he would surprise me with a ring, but with him, gifts are always really personal and he puts a lot of thought into them so it means a lot to me that he spent the time he did picking out gifts. By the time I got my ring I felt like it was a combination of all the gifts he picked out in one, since he found the perfect ring. Don’t feel bad…at least he is giving you great gifts while you are waiting for the ring…it could be worse if you were waiting and he gave you nothing or something terrible! (At least, that’s what I told myself sometimes, too).

Post # 5
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Newbee

I have felt totally guilty. It seems like no matter how hard I try, every holiday or special occasion that comes up, I am expecting it, and when it doesnt happen, I am always dissapointed. Its a vicious cycle lol and I cant just enjoy whatever is happening then.

Post # 6
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538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

guilty Embarassed

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Awww Its ok, Ive been on the same boat but not with my SO- with friends and family lol. and its ok! that doesnt mean that you dont appreciate what he got for you, you were just exptecting something else, and its perfectly fine to feel that way!

 

Did you later on how him that you appreciate what he got for you ?

Post # 9
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413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KoalaWalla: I was in the exact same situation as you! J got me a $1300 camera for my 31st birthday in August. I almost balled my eyes out! Although I was so appreciative, I was so disappointed that he didn’t use that money for a deposit on a ring, or at least saved it for a ring. But I just found out that he has put a deposit on a ring, so it must be on its way!

Maybe he’s trying to throw you off… Is that a possibility?

Gwen

Post # 10
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425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KoalaWalla:

 

Awwwww… *hug* I totally understand what you mean but you know what, you know your SO better then anyone else so if you feel comfortable with talking to him, bring it up with him in a subtle way! like, talk to him about it without feeling pressuring!! Tell him that your not asking for him to propose tomorow or after- but that you really want to be married to him soon and that you feel that you might have to wait a while.

 

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My birthday was two days ago and while my boyfriend got me incredibly gifts that I love to death, at the end of the night when I was putting everything away and getting ready for bed, I did find myself wishing that he had pulled the ultimate surprise and proposed. Also, our second anniversary was two months ago today and that whole day I was hoping he’d propose, and that day came and went with no ring. I do sometimes feel bad for feeling that way, when I should be happy for what I do have, but I really think it’s only natural, and I’m sure most women in our situation feel the exact same way. Sad but true.

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