@Cosmocity–My husband and I are both Guard so I can probably help if you need any info for your wedding. We chose not to do a military wedding but I have been to a couple.
My first question would be- Does he want to wear his uniform bc its the easiest thing or does he want to have a miltary wedding? We all know most guys are going to go for the easiest route and maybe not consider all the details.
The other question would be- are there other military members standing up for him and are they also going to wear the uniform?
I would think its odd to see the uniform worn with no other traditions being recognized. You can skip the swords but as a minimum most people do a pow/mia table at the reception.
Here’s a description and a picture, you could just put the description in the program or else have your dj read it off.
I’ll be glad to answer any other questions if you need any help.
As you entered the banquet hall this evening, you may have noticed a small table in a place of honor. It is set for one. This table is our way
of symbolizing the fact that members of our profession of arms are missing from our midst. They are commonly called POWs or MIAs,
we call them “Brothers.” They are unable to be with us this evening and so we remember them.
This Table set for one is small — Symbolizing the frailty of one prisoner alone against his oppressors. Remember! (ring bell)
The Tablecloth is white — Symbolizing the purity of their intentions to respond to their country’s call to arms. Remember! (ring bell)
The single Red Rose displayed in a vase reminds us of the families and loved ones of our comrades-in-arms
who keep the faith awaiting their return. Remember! (ring bell)
The Red Ribbon tied so prominently on the vase is reminiscent of the red ribbon worn upon the lapel and breasts of thousands who bear
witness to their unyielding determination to demand a proper accounting of our missing. Remember! (ring bell)
The Candle, the candle is lit — Symbolizing the upward reach of their unconquerable spirit. Remember! (ring bell)
A Slice of Lemon is on the bread plate to remind us of their bitter fate. Remember! (ring bell)
There is Salt upon the bread plate — Symbolic of the families tears as they wait. Remember! (ring bell)
The Glass is inverted — They cannot toast with us this night. Remember! (ring bell)
The Chair — The chair is empty. They are not here. Remember! (ring bell)
Remember! — All of you who served with them and called them comrades, who depended upon their might and aid, and
relied upon them, for surely, they have not forsaken you. Remember! (ring bell)
Remember! — Until the day they come home, Remember! (ring bell)
TABLE SET UP:
1. A small, round bistro table
2. White tablecloth
3. Single place setting, preferably all white
4. Wine glass – inverted
5. Salt shaker
6. Slice of lemon on bread plate with a pile of spilled salt
7. Small bud vase with a single stem red rose
8. RED ribbon tied around the vase
9. Candle – lit
10. Empty chair