(Closed) whos job is it…

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

20 years ago it was the brides family that through the party. Today anyone can through it including the Bride and Groom. You also don’t need to have one. Hope this is helpful.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have never heard anyone in real likfe ACTAULLY having one. It’s no ones “job” it is simply nice IF someone offers…

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

It’s whoever wants to throw one at this point. My friend’s engagement party was thrown by her FI’s parents, and also correlated her birthday party into it. So it was like SURPRISE, a whole lot more people are showing up than you thought.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The large majority of people I know, myself included, did not have an engagement party. However, my understanding is that it’s kinda rude to host it yourself because it can come off as ‘Hey, we’re throwing a party so you can come give us gifts.” Pretty much anyone can offer to host, but if no one does I’d just leave it alone. You can always have your families over to meet or something over dinner, I just wouldn’t bother calling it an engagement party.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It’s the job of whoever feels like hosting it, which may be no one at all. My Mom said she wanted to throw one for us. It never happened, and I couldn’t have cared less.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You can host it.  Just a casual gathering of your closet friends and family to announce your engagement is fine.  

I didn’t have an engagement party per se, but I am having an engagement serenade and it’s being osted by fi’s parents.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

engagement parties aren’t required really. usually a family member offers to have one or you could even throw your own.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

In Australia, engagement parties are very popular and are normally hosted by the bride & groom. Not that it helps at all but I think it’s fair to say in this day & age, do whatever u want!

eta: even tho engagement parties are the thing here, showers are not. It usually goes: engagement party + bucks/hens + wedding. That’s it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@vmec:  I keep wondering if this is a regional thing.  I have NEVER been to an engagement party or even known any even “friend of a friend” people that had one.

We happened to get engaged right before (Canadian) Thanksgiving and both sets of parents and my extended family were in town for that, so we kinda toasted to us at dinner and that was it.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@SapphireSun:  we went clubbing and drank our faces off- that count?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SapphireSun:  I agree, I have never been to nor heard of anyone attending an engagement party in Canada, I always assumed it was an American thing.

Wedding showers, bachelor and bachelorette parties and wedding socials are the normal thing in Manitoba.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Both my sisters and I had engagement parties.  My sister(whichever one wasn’t getting married) and me hosted them.  And than they hosted one for me.  My mom was also hostess since we used her house for these parties!  It is common in my circle to have an engagement party.  My BFF had a huge one where it was ALL family and there were over 100 people there!  I didn’t even get invited and I’m her Maid/Matron of Honor because her family is SO huge.  

In the end if someone offers say thank you but don’t ask someone to host one for you.

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