Post # 1
We found our bands today and Fiance selected a 9mm tungsten band. It’s exactly what he wanted (pic below) and is so “him”.
What do your men think of their tungsten rings? The saleswoman at the store sort of advised against tungsten, claiming that if something happened to it, an ER would have to cut his finger off to get the ring off (I thought I’d heard that most ERs now have tools taht will cut these metals like tungsten and titanium?), that they shatter easily, and cannot be buffed to get rid of scratches. Luckily, the place we bought the ring works with a company that will buff or replace a broken ring easily as long as the customer pays shipping. Sounds easy enough.
We were drawn to tungsten because it was cheap…Fiance will be a doctor and in a hospital constantly, meaning he’ll probably have to take it off for certain procedures, etc. I know for a fact during his surgery rotations he’ll have to take it off completly. He’s said that some surgeons he’s worked with have to take off their rings and tie them into their scrub pants to keep track of them.
All of this sounds like a recipe to lose the ring, which I fully expect him to do at least once. I’d be a whole lot less mad about him losing the tungsten ring–even if it takes a little bit longer/more effort to replace–than I would him losing an $800+ platinum/palladium/white gold ring.
How do y’all (or your husbands) like your/their tungstens??
Post # 3
My husband has a tungsten ring, he loves it! He said no to platinum and gold rings, he just wanted tungsten.
The lady at the jewelry store is wrong about “have to cut his finger off”. That’s total BS. Tungsten is actually SAFER because it will shatter if smashed in a vice or under heavy equipment, whereas metals like platinum, gold, silver, etc., will squish and stay squished, so they will continue squishing the finger until they are actually cut off.
Post # 4
Darling Husband and I both have tungsten wedding bands that we wear when we’re doing things/going unknown places and don’t want anything to happen to our diamonds.
Post # 5
Fiance is most likely getting tungsten. He is required to remove jewelry whenever he is working and he’ll take it off whenever he skates when he’s off duty. He likes the durability of it but mostly, he wants one of the LOTR rings and the one he’s picked only comes in tungsten.
Post # 6
@abbyful: is right, the lady is at the jewelry is mistaken in the “have to cut his finger off”. Many hospitals have to do that for titanium, but tungstun will shatter. The cool thing about it is that it stays shiny and doesn’t really scratch. Nice job on the bands!
Post # 7
my Fiance wants tungsten carbide. He is not a guy that would like wearing rings at all usually. But he says, he likes tungsten carbide because it’s black, and very masculine.
Post # 8
Mine has a tungsten carbide ring, he liked the gun metalish darker color over platinum or gold. He’s had it for about 6 months now and it’s held up great, no scratches or dents or anything, and he wears it all the time – yard work, car work, house maintenance….. His still looks brand new while my band needs to be buffed again.
Post # 9
@Chay: my Fiance is the same way…not too fond of wearing anything on his hands/fingers…he barely wears his watch because of how often he has to wash his hands while seeing patients. He was so funny…he was such a novice at trying on rings that he was trying to pull rings off that he’d tried on but was stretching his finger out and making his kunuckle huge so he coudln’t get rings off. The lady was like “okay, you obviously have never worn a ring, relax your finger and slide the ring up and over the knuckle”. lol!
Post # 11
@pinkshoes: Love that ring!! I do think they are so much more masculine. I feel certain my Fiance will shatter or lose his at some point at least once in our marriage, so the fact that these are not precious metals make me feel good!!
Post # 12
we will be getting a tungsten for my SO when we get married. he likes the gunmetal and black ones! i like them!
Post # 13
My Fiance has worn a tungsten promise ring for 3 years and loved it so much we’re using it for his wedding band. Hospitals can get it off. It doesn’t shatter “easily,” rather it shatters instead of bending. It won’t bend. Also, in 3 years of machine shop work (he’s an engineer) his hasn’t gotten a scratch, so buffing is unnecessary. I don’t know why salesmen tell people these things…
Post # 14
@Chay: My Fiance is the same way. He says Tungsten is cool. This is the ring we got for him.
Post # 15
My husband has tungsten carbide. He is an auto mechanic and it was important to both of us that he get a ring that he would be able to wear every day. He rarely takes his ring off. It has no imperfections or scratches and looks brand new. He has gotten paint on it, tree sap, oil, you name it. He does yardwork with it on with no issue. He has even dropped it a few times with no issue. The place we got his ring at has a size guarantee, we just pay shipping and they will send a new one.