- 6 years ago
Oh my god, if my fiance laments “god, Kristen, can’t you just be more traditional!!?” one more time I’m going to force him to elope to the courthouse.
I never wanted to wear a traditional white wedding dress. Thanks to him, that’s what I have. I didn’t want cake, he didn’t want a first look, so we compromised on both. We’re a hot mess.
I’d say we go back and forth. On some things, like having all of our family there- I am more traditional. Its a requirement. But when I mentioned maybe wearing a colorful dress, he said he’d always liked the idea of seeing me in a white dress (as in, he would really prefer that. On some things, like choice of venue- we are on the same untraditional page and are constantly looking for whatever we can afford that looks least like a banquet hall.
My Fiance wants all the traditional stuff in a wedding. I would like to go to hawaii and get married!
We both are traditional but in our own ways… Engagement he wanted to ask my dad but i told him not to. He was slightly relieved though. but we both wanted traditional proposal. Wedding we both dont want super traditional but i want more tradition then him as hed love to just run off and elope and spend the money on our honeymoon instead.
We are both semi traditional. I didn’t care about all of the traditions, but a few basic traditions were important (like not seeing the exact ring before the proposal, a planned romantic proposal, him not seeing my dress before the wedding, etc). He is from a different culture, so his traditions are totally different, and like me, he picked a few that he considered important.
I’m super traditional.
Only because I’m annoyingly OCD, and I’ve been planning my wedding for 18 years. I didn’t care who I was marrying at 3 years old, but I knew damn well what my wedding would look like.
Fiance would have been content proposing like OP suggested she was fine with. I was like
“Not a chance in Hell.”
Deep down, I know the real cause of it.
Fiance was married before me for an astonishing 6 months. The wedding was uber casual. No proposal, no wedding dress, no wedding cake. I just feel like I need to do better than that, because I’m his second bride. And I don’t care about other couples. I actually love the non-traditional weddings that I’ve been to. I just want a traditional one because his first wedding was the polar opposite.
I’m so pathetic.
I was picturing a more “traditional” engagement and was disappointed at first when he wanted me to take him to jewelry stores and show him what I liked. But I understood that he really wanted to get a ring I would love. He eventually picked out the perfect ring (which I’d never seen before) and I wouldn’t change a thing about the proposal or ring.
With wedding planning, he is definitely more traditional. He wants the big wedding, not seeing each other before the ceremony, garter toss…
He was the traditional one as we were planning!! He’d often have freak out moments that i wanted to think outside the box!
I didn’t know where to vote on this one. In all other aspects of our lives, I’m more traditional, whereas the SO is not. But when it comes down to engagement/wedding stuff he tends to be more traditional than I on certain things. Since we just really started looking at rings, the biggest disagreement that we’ve had up to this point is the ring.
(Example: Black Diamond Discussion)-
Me: Babe, I’m so in love with Black Diamond Engagement Rings!
The SO: “Wow really, that’s so dark, like death, you wanna associate our marriage with death? How about a regular ring, you know a traditional white diamond. .
Fiance is definitely more of the traditional one, im more of an offbeat bride to be.
@tbarton: I am the same!! I would have been happy with a destination wedding (preferred it even), but my fiance would never agree. This is the first wedding for his family and there is a good chance his brother will be content being the perpetual bachelor, so I understand.
I think unlike some girls growing up, I never had dreams of my wedding day. I never desired to wear a big poufy white dress nor felt the rush to get married, even after we’d been together for a few years and kept getting those ‘when are you getting married’ questions. I even suggested shopping for my ring together, but my fiance said NO WAY! Lol. We are having a pretty traditional wedding though, except for a non-religious ceremony with our own vows and not sure about the garter/bouquet toss.
We are both traditional and untraditional in our own ways. Like I would have been more then happy with a colored gemstone ring, but he wanted to get me a diamond.
In general though, we are both leaning towards untradtional.
He is more traditional than I am in most cases, but still not too terribly traditional considering he agreed to our courthouse wedding. He came around to a lot of the untraditional things I wanted/were cheaper (and thus made more sense to me),
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