(Closed) Who's NAME goes FIRST???

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who's name goes first? Favors, things being engraved, napkins, etc.
    Always the brides name first on everything! : (10 votes)
    29 %
    Grooms name first! : (3 votes)
    9 %
    It doesn't matter! Whatever you prefer! : (22 votes)
    63 %
    There should be a mix on everything! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I don’t think it really matters. For the invitation, my name was first. His name was first for everything else because it sounds better to me.

    Post # 4
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    doesn’t matter. Last June, I was invited to a wedding and the groom’s name came first because it flowed better that way. I’ve been invited to a wedding this June and the bride’s name came first. who cares?

    Post # 5
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    793 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I have no idea if there is any rule about whose name goes first on stuff like that. We ordered personalized napkins in two different colors, so I put my name first on one set and his name first on the other. I honestly didn’t think about which name was “supposed” to come first. I would say whichever order sounds better! And honestly, even if his name first is “wrong” I don’t  think anyone is going to be like “OMG did you see that his name was FIRST when it should have been HER name?!”

    Post # 8
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    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Traditionally speaking, the bride’s parents were the ones who would host a wedding, so the bride’s parents names would be listed first on the invitation.  If the groom’s parents also contributed to the cost, their names would go on line 2.

     

    Of course, times change.  If parents aren’t hosting the wedding, then I suppose the traditional etiquette rules would be bent a little bit.  (Though I’ve always held firm to the belief of ‘ladies first’ just because I’ve always seen it done that way.)

     

     

    Post # 9
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    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I believe that traditionally, the bride’s name comes first, but I go by whoever’s name sounds better first. Our friends got married back in October and everything had her name first and it sounds weird, because his name sounds better first! 

    Post # 11
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    793 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @blondiegirl:  I think it’s your preference! Either way, you can’t really go wrong, it’s your day and both of your names! :]

    Post # 13
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    1652 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We put the bride’s name first, but I don’t think it matters 🙂

    Post # 14
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    9190 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I think traditionally it’s the bride’s name first, but we’re doing a mix of both on all the personalized stuff (wedding website, Save-The-Date Cards, invites, koozies, signs, etc).

    Post # 15
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    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @blondiegirl:  Well, that is up to you…but I was going to do that, and my mom completely cussed me out on that!  She was quite offended we didn’t want to put our parents’ names on the invittions initially.  Since they contributed quite a bit to the wedding budget, she wanted her name on the invitation!

     

    So just thought I’d let you know that….you never know how the ‘rents are going to take that knd of thing…some people take this etiquette stuff quite seriously!

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