Post # 1
So I am having issues with my Dad at the moment it is nothing major but I am trying to organise my invites and my parents are divorced so my dad and step mum are paying for the reception and my mum isn’t.
My dad wants to have his name and my step mums names on the invites but I am worried it might cause problems with my mum and my FI parents if there names aren’t on it either. My step mum thinks I shouldn’t have any parents names at all but this is causing tension with my dad because he keeps telling me how he is paying for it and should be acknowledged…I explained that we would acknowledge him in the speeches at the reception and I am going to buy him a gift but I just want to make everyone happy and it is sooo hard.
I really don’t know what to do I was hoping maybe someone has been in a similar situation that could give me some advice, because I would really appreciate it.
Post # 3
Technically, the name of the host (who pays) is listed. I’m not sure what advice to give you here without leaving our your mom.
My invitations are listed as;;
X and Y
request the pleasure of your company
at the wedding of their daughter,
Son of A and B,
date tiem place blah blah blah
Could you simply do “Together with their families, Bride and groom…” ?
Post # 4
i would say “together with their families , X & Y request the pleasure of your company at blah blaha” people who really know you guys will know who is paying for what.
Post # 5
@sweetpeony: I second this. Some people do put everyone on individually but that can get clunky. This plus comment in your speech thanking dad & step mum for their generosity & the gift your planning should be enough?
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
If your Dad is hosting, his name goes at the top, with his wife’s. If that bothers your mom, then she needs to contribute. Seriously. He’s the host and the invitations are issued by the host.
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Post # 8
We put “We request the honor of your presence … at the marriage of (me), daughter of (my parents’ names) and (FI), son of (FI’s parents’ names) …”
The “we” is never explicitly identified, so it doesn’t really point to who’s paying.