(Closed) Who’s NOT doing a bouquet/garter toss and what is your reasoning?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re not doing either, we just don’t care to participate when we are wedding guests so we didn’t feel like forcing the tradition on our guests when we are not that into it.

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

we are not because of a few reasons. The single girls are dwindling down, so there would probably be like 5 – as a single guest in the past I was never fond of being one of the girls expected to go crazy over catching it, and I also don’t want to add to the budget a bouquet to toss. We will do an anniversary dance however

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Considering that pretty much everyone who will be there is immediate or nearly immediate family, we didn’t feel the garter toss was appropriate. Besides, I’ve never seen it done before where it didn’t look sleezy and that’s just not us. I’m not a fan of my Fiance having to kneel in front of me while a stripper song is playing in a church and grabbing my undergarments to throw at people we know. I might buy a garter for him to find that night though haha! And there won’t be any “single” women at the reception who will even be interested in the bouquet toss and I’m not going to make a special bouquet just for that since it’s winter and flowers are crazy expensive. Besides, what are you supposed to do after you catch it? Put it in a vase or something?

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m not doing either – we want to stay away from some of the more “traditional” parts of a reception, so having a bouquet toss doesn’t fit in with the style of wedding that we’re having… also, my single friends have mentioned how uncomfortable those things make them, so we’re more than happy to give it a miss! 🙂

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m not doing it because it’s just not something done at weddings in the country I live in.  Heck, I’m still debating on having a bouqet in the first place!

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We’re not doing either one. I had so many women say they hate the bouquet toss, so that was enough for me! I wasn’t really dead set on the idea any way and I just want people to enjoy themselves. I just wanted more time for dancing too, so the garter toss went out the door as well! I don’t think anyone will me them :)… I know I won’t!

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I’ll be doing the bouquet toss to the song, Girls Just Wanna Have Fun hehe. But we won’t be doing the garter toss mostly for propriety’s sake. I still want to wear a garter and have him take it off, but probably not in front of everyone and not throw it… and all that… my family hates that tradition and neither of my two married siblings did it either. My sister actually did the garter removal privatively in the park outside the church with our mom and the photographer, the pictures turned out really cute! 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re definitely not.

In a nutshell: 

(a) Most of our guests are already coupled.

(b) These traditions, in our opinion, serve only to make the single people in attendance feel singled out (no pun intended!).

(c) There is no freaking way that I’m letting The Guy go up my skirt in front of 200 people. Yuck. No thank you.

(d) It just didn’t seem like “us”, and we’re doing our best to stay true to who we are, not just do things because they’re tradition.

Post # 25
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We are not doing either!  Both my Fiance and I are 40 and most of our friends are married or in a committed relationship.  The only single gals will be BM#2 and the flower girls so that would just be wrong!  I’m not wearing a garter so that’s out too.  We are doing an Anniversary Dance and I will give the bouquet to the couple who has been married the longest.  We want to celebrate the commitment of marriage!

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

@miss yecnors, that is sooo cute! I love that idea!

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have been contemplating on doing either one. I hate being on the spotlight, so having all eyes on me… not sure about that. But I think that I dont want to miss out on any wedding routine. I am not sure…

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

We didn’t do them. There were only a handful of single people at the wedding, and the only one actually interested in the bouquet toss was my 20-year-old cousin. As for the garter toss, uh no. I didn’t even buy a garter, so yeah, there was gonna be none of that. We did do an anniversary dance instead, which was fun.

Post # 29
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Not doing it. I think it’s kinda awkward for guests “Hey YOU’RE SINGLE! Git on over here!” and also the garter part is tacky. FI’s brother’s wedding the groom was pretty drunk and he was under her dress for a while…while their kid they already had looked on. Gross. So basically I have never had a lovely experience and if someone didn’t do it I wouldn’t judge!

ALSO I am doing a clay bouquet and I am sure as hell not throwing it 🙂

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

We’re not doing it. I’ve only been to one wedding where they did it and it was awkward and embarassing for everyone. No thank you.

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m not doing either of them because I’m trying to eliminate the cheese factor as much as possible at the wedding (no offense to those who like these traditions, I just think they’re dated and kinda cheesy). Another reason I am not doing it is because almost all of my friends are married. I don’t want to embarrass my 2 single friends by having them out there in front of everyone while I toss my bouquet at them. They were quite relieved to know I’m not doing the bouquet or garter toss. It’s a win-win all the way around.

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