(Closed) Who’s NOT doing a bouquet/garter toss and what is your reasoning?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My bouquet isn’t really tossable (and I’m not paying for a second bouquet just so I can throw it), and I kinda wanted to do the Anniversary dance, so we’re doing that instead!
Fiance was too embarassed to do the garter thing, and I kind of want to keep my garter as a keepsake and don’t really understand the whole wearing 2 garters, so we just decided to nix it.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we’re not doing a bouquet or garter toss. we had originally planned to and then were like, “wait, why are we doing this? almost everyone we know HATES going out to the floor to try and catch them.” so we stopped planning for one. I feel like it’s one of those things that if you don’t do it, no one will even realize you didn’t nor will they miss it.

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Miss Yecnors We’re doing the Anniversary Dance too! The DJ will have the “couple who has been married less than five hours leave the dance floor” Love it!! And then go until the last couple standing..I will go over and present the smaller bouquet to the wife and congratulate her.

I think the bouquet toss is OK if there are lots of single women (we will only have a few single women so I would never torture the women like that)

The garter is just wrong in my opinion..in public? In front of family? I don’t like the idea-creeps me out actually.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

No way was I going to put a big halt on our party to have my grandmother watch my husband fish something out from between my legs. To me, bouquets, garters, cake cutting – all a party foul. Keep the music, dancing, and booze flowing to have a good party.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Because I would literally die of embarrassment if Mike crawled up my skirt and took the garter off with his teeth.  Hi, this is a family event.  Also, there’s hardly any single ladies coming.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Also, my friend’s husband who did it said that his wife’s legs were sweaty and gross.  I don’t want Mike’s memory of me on our wedding night to be “sweaty and gross.”

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am not wearing a garter or having it removed in front of people! Really uncomfortable with that. And there would be kids at the reception! (:

And I don’t like the idea that girls are just dying to get married and should fight over a bouquet. 

I also don’t want to do a cake cutting, but I don’t care that much so I might do it to appease my mom. I really dislike the whole shove-cake-in-face thing though!

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Chillmer, just read your post -EEWWW!! That’s just awful! Huge reason not to even consider doing it for me…

Post # 40
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Not doing it bc it icks me out. Does my grandma (and dad?) need to see my Fiance fishing around under my skirt? Hell no. Do my single friends really want to be paraded out and battle over a bouquet? HELL NO. 🙂

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m also really not interested in either. My mom is so sad I’m not doing the bouquet toss, but I HATED having to go up there when I wasn’t engaged! So embarrassing!

I would have loved to do the anniversary dance, but Fiance and I both had a grandparent that died recently, and we don’t want to bring up the fact that our grandparents (who probably would have been up there for longest marriages) are now widowed.

Are there any other suggestions? I was thinking of playing an oldie and having couples get up there and dance, and give my bouquet to the couple that had the best moves (we’d rig it to give it to an old couple, I’m sure). Any thoughts/suggestions on anything else to do?

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Definitely not doing the garter/bouquet thing, because I’ve always hated them at weddings that I’ve attended.  Now that I think about it, though, I’ve never been to a wedding where they DON’T do it.  Basically, the idea of my Fiance rooting around under my skirt in front of a big crowd gives me the heeby-jeebies.  Plus I always hated going for the bouquet.

Funny story: At one of the first weddings of my college friends, there was a huge crowd of single women (we went to a women’s college).  For the bouquet toss, we all stood up, but then we all ran away from the bouquet, and it dropped to the ground!  Ooops…

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve considered making a toss bouquet out of paper flowers made of money and just getting all of the women on the dance floor to try to catch it. I’ve also thought about attaching a gift card to the garter, but I really don’t like the aspect of my husband crawling up my skirt in front of everyone. Hopefully I’ll figure something out!

Post # 44
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Busy bee

We did not do either.  I wasn’t that happy with the thouhgt of my husband going up my dress in front of everyone.  He wanted to do it but in the end I said we could do it if he wanted and he didn’t want to do it.

I’ve always hated the bouquet toss.  Instead we did the generation dance and the bouquet was given to the longest married couple.

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are also not doing either.  I have always hated it, and it seems like everybody else hates it too, so why bother?

Post # 46
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We aren’t doing the garter toss because my Fiance and I aren’t super comfortable with PDAs so the thought of him climbing up my skirt and ripping a garter off with his teeth gives me a mini-stroke.

I go back & forth on my bouquet & what to do with it. I may just end up giving it to the couple who has been married the longest… which is probably going to be one of my grandparents 🙂

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