(Closed) Who’s NOT doing a bouquet/garter toss and what is your reasoning?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 62
Bee
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Family Lake House

We didn’t do a garter or bouquet toss and totally didn’t miss it! None of the guests missed it either! My reasoning for avoiding it was I just wanted to spend my precious little reception time dancing and socializing. The timeline was jampacked enough with dinner at 7:30, followed by speeches, first dances, and cake cutting! I wanted to have more time to NOT be ordered around by my DOC. 🙂 I think it also would work well to just do it spontaneously if you DO feel like tossing your bouquet/garter! That way it’s not another item your DOC will be tapping you on the shoulder reminding you to do.

Post # 63
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53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We didn’t do a garter or bouquet toss.

Nothing more embarassing than having your family and friends watch your husband stick his head up your dress.

Most of our guests were married or in long term relationships, so the bouquet toss seemed a bit redundant. I’ve been at a wedding where the MC had to pressure all the unmarried women to do the bouquet toss, and the flowers ended up on the floor because no one wanted them. My sister picked them up as a sort of pity-catch.

It’s just not something that’s really popular or common among my friends, and I didn’t see any point making myself or my guests feel uncomfortable just for the sake of tradition.

Post # 64
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We didn’t do this for 2 basic reasons:

1) Very few single lady friends to catch the bouquet (and I know a couple of them were feeling bad because there were a lot of weddings in our group of friends in the past couple of years)

2) I felt weird having my husband up my dress in front of his family members I do not know very well, or other old people I would feel weird around!

That said, these are both very fun at a wedding, and I always enjoyed participating when I was single!  It was weird to attend a wedding and NOT be able to go up for the bouquet catching part.

Post # 65
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Haha, I always planned on doing both, but after reading this, I’m not sure.  I just asked my Fiance and he said, yes we are so I guess we’ll see.

I also don’t think we’ll have a lot of single people there, but I guess we’ll end up doing it.

Post # 65
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Haha, I always planned on doing both, but after reading this, I’m not sure.  I just asked my Fiance and he said, yes we are so I guess we’ll see.

I also don’t think we’ll have a lot of single people there, but I guess we’ll end up doing it.

Post # 66
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Like most of the others have said, we aren’t doing it because its yet a fairly small wedding and the majority of the people who are invited are in serious relationships or already married. Just doesn’t make since.

We are also not doing many of the other traditional wedding reception things. No DJ, NO Dancing, just a great cocktail hour and an EXCELLENT meal with our closest friends and family!

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