(Closed) Who's not having a "wedding?"

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re going to the courthouse at some point in May (long story). We were planning a wedding last year, then called that off but stayed together. Then called off being engaged. Shortly after that, we ended our relationship. That only lasted a few months though, and within 5-6 months we were committed to each other and I moved back in. Then we decided to get married again a month or two ago. Re-planning a wedding is so not something that we want to do. Like the OP, this is a second marriage for both of us. We lost a fair amount of money when we called off our wedding,a nd well… looking at spending it again (and actually going through with it) makes us think about other places we’d rather put that cash! (Aka vacation time!!) We don’t wnt to worry about family drama, so our ceremony will be us. At the courthouse. with a witness or two. We will let people know after, and have a get together at our house a month after. It’s a lot less stressful for us, and we’re not worried about making everyone else (but ourselves) happy. We have been just focusing on our relationship and life after that one day, and it’s been great for us (note: for us. Not for anyone else! I have no issues w/ anyone else havign a simple or elaborate wedding. This is just what makes us happy)

Post # 4
Member
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@aquaelle:  I wish my Fiance would have let me have the small elopment/wedding. He wanted to big party and everything else. I am glad you and your Fiance are having the type of day the two of you want! By The Way, yay for being date twins. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 6
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4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We eloped.  At the time we lived across the country from everyone, and I just did not want to deal with it.  I knew my dad was not going to contribute, and my family is overall disfunctional, so we went the next state over to New Orleans (we had never been there) & took the plunge.  I am the oldest & only girl, he is the only boy in his family… some people were mad, but meh.  They didn’t pay for us to elope, either.  I looooved it!

Post # 7
Member
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We had three people in attendance at our courthouse wedding and then a fabulous dinner at at an upscale restaurant, in their private dining room.  We were dressed up, had fresh flowers, and a professional photographer.  No regrets whatsoever!

Post # 10
Hostess
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Isn’t it way better without all of the stress?! Fi and I were originally going to get married in August in a beach wedding with around 120 people. Last week we decided to scrap the plans and on May 3 we are going to the coast by ourselves and eloping on the beach! The only people in attendance will be our officiant, our photographer, and then my friend/our baker to sign as a witness.  We also get to have a nice weekend away, which we wouldn’t have been able to afford with the “wedding”. Can you say oceanfront jacuzzi suite? 

 

Now all I have to worry about is getting my dress altered and getting our marriage license. Everything else is taken care of!

 

Post # 11
Hostess
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@aquaelle:  Wear your gown! It’s still your wedding day! I’m going to be wearing my Paloma Blanca still. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
Member
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@aquaelle:  I admire the couples that take the elopement route because I think sometimes it is the most practical and economical solution. Especially in your case that you both of you are in school. But I also understand the appeal of having the whole big wedding deal too. When I was younger (I am in my early 30s now) I wanted the big wedding but now I am kind of like I just want to get to the point. And if it weren’t for the fact that my Fiance really wants the bigger wedding and the fact that his parents offered to cover our reception,  I would not be doing the big wedding deal. πŸ™‚ We changed my ring at least once so don’t feel too badly! That ring is going to be on your finger for a long time, so make sure to get it right!! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 13
Member
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@PacificMrs:  That sounds so awesome to go away with your Fiance and elope! It is so romantic!! πŸ™‚ Congrats! 

Post # 14
Member
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@aquaelle:  I would rock the wedding dress!! After all you bought it and your Fiance will love seeing you all dolled up in your dress even if it is the just the two of you and a few other people! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 15
Member
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsLobizon:  Yay for doing what is best for the two of you! πŸ™‚ I agree that when people elop and have a low-key affair it is so much less stressful and allows you to put that money you would have spent on a big wedding into something more practical and long-term! πŸ™‚ Not that marriage isn’t going to be long-term. πŸ™‚ 

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