Post # 17
@heatherp Yes its a stressful yet good feeling at times : )
@VirginiaMarie of course everyone has their resons….
I am not saying your dependent on your parents but I was speaking for myself and I feel blessed and very independent that we can do it ourselves….I wasnt speaking on behalf of everyone : )
Post # 18
Fiance and i are paying for about 40%..then my parents are paying for the rest. FIs parents may help out for things here and there too.
we feel lucky both of our parents want to help us where they can…but we also feel more responsible to pay for things because we are older than say, when my sis got married. (she was 24 and my parents paid for everything. everything. )
Post # 19
Like a lot of the previous posters, we are paying for some of it ourselves, and both sets of our parents have each agreed to pay for about 25%. So we’ll be paying about half. Of course that could change once my FH’s parents find out we’re planning on moving in together before the wedding (BIG no-no for them). Hopefully that doesn’t drain us of 25% of the fund lol. But that’s another story!
It would be nice if my parents could pay for all of wedding, but I know they are contributing what they can and I am very grateful for that. I wasn’t expecting any contribution so I am pleasently surprise and thrilled that they have offered.
Post # 20
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
We’re paying for part, my parents are paying for part, and his parents are paying for part! I’d say my parents are probably paying the most, but we’re all chipping in.
Post # 21
we had received help from a lot of people for example:
my mom: the cake and everything related to dessert
Inlaws: table, chairs, tent and the wedding will be at their house
best man and maid of honor: DJ and entertainment
so we are very lucky to have people to help us… all the other stuff we will be paying for it
Post # 22
Fiance and I are paying for it, well he is if I can’t find a job. My parents offered some money, but life got crazy after that in their house and so if we get any money from them it will be paying for our honeymoon. If not, then we’ll spring for it ourselves.
Post # 23
I’m paying for every penny of our $50K wedding. I can’t really say I “wouldn’t have it any other way” though. It would have been a nice gesture for my parents to help, as they can certainly afford it, but I don’t think the thought ever crossed their mind.
Post # 24
We are paying for the entire thing ourselves. I am not so fortunate to have parents who are able to contribute money to the event, but the little they did offer I requested they use for their hotel and attire. I’ve been on my own for awhile and saving for awhile, and I don’t mind paying for my party. It’s one of those it is what it is type of situations.
Post # 25
My parents are paying for the reception site/dinner and my mom is paying for my dress. Everything else we’re paying cash for.
Post # 26
We are paying for all of our as well. My mother is ill and my Fiance parents aren’t in a position financially. Honestly, I can’t think of one thing that they are paying for.
Post # 27
We’re paying for it all as well. As much as we gripe about the price, the big thing is that this would not only be a wedding but a vacation (destination wedding!) for our family. We wouldn’t know when we’ll have an opportunity to vacay ALL OF US together, so why not?
I feel pretty darn proud to be able to do it – both of our parents had worked so hard, no way we’d make them pay for anything. We’re paying for their airfare, attire, hotels, etc etc.
Post # 28
were paying for all of it except for a couple small things. my mom offered to pay for most of the wedding but we figured if we are old enough to get marreid then we should pay for it. plus are parents arent well to do so i cant imagine them having to pay for OUR wedding, tis not their responsibility. not putting down anyone whos parents are paying for it, i think thats great too! 🙂
Post # 29
We are paying for most of everything. The only thing that is being paid for us are the flowers because my mom wants me to have a really big bouquet and it was one area we could skimp on if we had to. So she’s picking up the tab for it. It also helps that our DJ is free. I have been scouring the internet to find everything I could on sale. So it’s hard but totally worth it 🙂
Post # 30
I really do admire the bees who pay for it all themselves, that is awesome.
A year ago I bought a car. My parents are very well-off (not Donald Trump level, but they are beyond comfortable), wheras I am your typical broke grad student (PhD track, so it’ll be awhile still). They offered repeatedly to help me with the car, but I was too stubborn….and then they eventually stopped offering. I will be paying for it for the next 4 years (which is fine, lots of people do), but it made my already tight financial situation reach a new level of discomfort. I mean, I can handle it and am still relatively lucky when you look at the world, but it is very tight.
When they offered to help with the wedding I decided not to do the same thing as I did with the car. We are paying for a few things, but they are really covering the big ticket items. And because of it we are able to have a much nicer shindig than if me & Fiance (also a grad student) were paying. So, I am less proud than I was with the car, but now we are just very grateful 🙂
Oh on the flip side though, FI’s parents are not doing well financially, so we will do the rehearsal dinner (and honeymoon of course!).
Post # 31
We are def paying for bulk of it. Fiance family paying for out flowers and videography. However we got amazing deal on flowers and a family member does wedding videography for a living.