Post # 1
Member
529 posts
Busy bee
So weddings are expensive. My FI want a nice wedding but we’re trying to outweigh the costs and the benefits. I don’t really know why, but it almost makes me feel jealous of people whose parents are paying for their wedding. Like, these couples don’t have to choose between saving for a house or for a wedding, or saving for both at the same time and having a 2 year engagement. Is there anyone out there who has these similar feelings? I know it’s a little silly, and extremly FWP, but I can’t shake the feeling that this 20k wedding wouldn’t be for us, but to make other people happy.
Post # 3
Member
7908 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
My mom paid for my dress and for the reception with some help from her boyfriend (hate that word… they’re in their 60s and have been together for 22 years). My great aunt paid for the hotel stays. My Dad paid for half the DJ, the “mandatory donation” to our church for our pastor officiating, and the photography deposit. DH’s parents gave us a few thousand to use where necessary and the rehearsal. So we (with that monetary help from DH’s parents) paid for the groom’s attire, my accessories, invitations, gifts, the flowers, the bulk of the photography, half the DJ, the cake, favors, all other decorations, and anything else I’m forgetting.
Post # 4
Member
7610 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
None of the above! Only my parents conributed to our wedding costs.
Post # 5
Member
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
We paid for our wedding with the exception of some items that were gifted like the dj and photographer.
Post # 6
Member
4038 posts
Honey bee
We paid for most of it ourselves, but we had some help from DH’s parents.
Post # 7
Member
4429 posts
Honey bee
@Lacelibs: i feel you my family nor his can afford to help pay. and were adults were the one who want to get married but i really wish i had parents that could help a lil hopefully they will with the showers and the rehearsal dinner and my MOH has bog plans for the bachelorette party ; ) she wants to do a weekend cruise. FH mom offered to pay for the invitations so that will help alot. i dont mind paying i just did not realize it was so expensive ; (
but thats the price we must pay if we want the wedding of our dreams.
its my first wedding and im going as all out as we can.
Post # 8
Member
813 posts
Busy bee
1/2 my mom, 1/4 us, 1/4 FIs parents.
thats not totally accurate, but pretty damn close!
Post # 9
Member
5014 posts
Bee Keeper
I voted 100% my parents, but it’s more like 90%. My FI and I are paying for his suit, our rings, gifts for bridesmaids/groomsmen, the rehearsal dinner, and our honeymoon. FI’s family can’t afford to help with anything, but we are very lucky that my family is able to make a generous contribution (actually, they insist on it!).
Post # 10
Member
2616 posts
Sugar bee
the groom paid for it all .grooms dad paid for rehearsal
Post # 11
Member
496 posts
Helper bee
None of the above. FI is paying for it all. I only work part time from home as I take care of my Mom pretty much full time. I am greatful to have such a supportive partner!
Post # 12
Member
3773 posts
Honey bee
@RunnerBride13: I voted 100% my parents, but it’s more like 90%. My FI and I are paying for his suit, our rings, gifts for bridesmaids/groomsmen, the rehearsal dinner, and our honeymoon. FI’s family can’t afford to help with anything, but we are very lucky that my family is able to make a generous contribution (actually, they insist on it!).
Are you my twin!!! this sounds just like my wedding. Only additional thing we are paying for is my dress. But FI and I are paying for all that you all are paying for too!!! FI’s family is lucky they can afford to make it to the wedding.
Post # 13
Member
315 posts
Helper bee
None of those poll options…
My parents offered a set amount they would pay. So they are paying for the majority of it. Anything over that amount the FI and I are paying.
Fi’s parents are doing nothing…well supposedly the rehersal dinner but I’m not sure they’ll even pull that together. Can you sense some stress and annoyance?? Haha! Opps!
Post # 14
Member
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
We still haven’t entirely settled on the budget – my fiance’s parents are insisting on paying half of the costs, and my parents want to pay half, and both fiance and myself are trying to talk them down to a third each (maximum). I’d almost rather they didn’t contribute anything….
Post # 15
Member
2974 posts
Sugar bee
my fiance & i and my parents are paying for the majority of it.
a few family members volunteered to help with “little” things like my cake and drinks, but for the most part, between my fiance and i and my parents we’re paying for it.
Post # 16
Member
1128 posts
Bumble bee
My parents paid for most, DH’s parents paid for the bar bill and rehearsal dinner, and DH and I paid for some odds and ends.
Member
