(Closed) Who's paying for your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Money
  • poll: Who's paying?

    Your FI and you alone

    100% brides parents

    100% grooms parents

    1/2 brides, 1/2 grooms

    Part self, part parents (both sides)

  • Post # 47
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    none of the above. part bride’s parents part bride and groom.

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    None of the poll options apply. My mother, my brother, Fiance, and I will be paying for the wedding. 

    Post # 49
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    Sugar bee

    Fiancé and I are. My fiancé is receiving a large settlement next month and I have been saving money since we got engaged. I am glad our families haven’t chipped in any money so that we don’t have to deal with them imposing their wants on our wedding.

    Plus, we will probably get very nice gifts from our parents since they didn’t have to chip in.

    Post # 50
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    Bumble bee

    FI’s dad id paying for 50%, my parents are paying for 15% and we are paying for the balance (35%).

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We are paying for abot 80% of everything. Fiancé’s parents will pay for the rehearsal dinner and my parents will pay for a few odds and ends and my aunt for my dress.

    Post # 52
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    None of the poll options fit.  My parents are paying for the vast majority.  Fiance and I are contributing a set amount. 

    Post # 53
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    DH’s parents paid for the bulk of it, my parents paid for the rest. His grandparents contributed towards our honeymoon. We bought the little things alittle at a time in the year leading up. It was very unstressful because we received so much help. I’m very grateful.

    Post # 54
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I didn’t vote in the poll since I didn’t see my option up there. My parents are paying for about 2/3 of the wedding and Fiance & I are paying about 1/3. Originally, my parents were hoping to split it with FI’s dad, but he wasn’t interested in paying for anything wedding related. Then my parents decided they would just pay 100% and didn’t want Fiance & I paying anything. But then we were sneaky and paid for a few thousand dollars before they could say no! I’d like to contribute more, but my mom doesn’t want us to. She wants us to save our money to start our life together.

    Post # 55
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My parents are paying for the vast majority. FI’s parents are paying for the “typical” grooms-side things (e.g., rehersal dinner, flowers).  My grandparents are giving us 5k for the honeymoon but we will probably end up booking it before we get the $.  We are also paying for our rings and the Justice of the Peace.

    Post # 56
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    99% my dad, 5% my mom, 5% us. 

    We’ll have a nice wedding, but it’ll be way budget compared to most of our friends and family. This is fun – one of my best friends got married last year. She planned a pretty inexpensive wedding (cheap chapel, almost free reception venue, BBQ catering, DIY bar, no dj, no cake, replica dress, no flowers) and kept the $20k that her parents gave her for the wedding. I am jealous that my parents didn’t give me $20k!

    Post # 57
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Ours is a little more complex than the options above. We are very fortunate in that both of our parents are pretty well off and want to contribute.

    My mom and stepdad gave a $5,000 budget. Our venue is a resort in Destin where my stepdad holds a yearly conference and spends about $500,000 (company money). Since he’s been working with the event planners there for 10+ years, they were more than happy to slash prices for us by A LOT – we’re talking 80-90%. So that $5,000 is going a long way.

    My biodad and stepmom have not offered anything, nor do I expect them to (but would accept graciously).

    FI’s dad and stepmom are quite loaded. They’ve already said they will take care of the rehearsal dinner and our honeymoon to Costa Rica is their gift to us.

    FI’s mom isn’t all that well off, so we don’t expect her to contribute.

    All our DIY stuff I’m paying as we go.

    Post # 58
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    we are paying for most of it… my parents have helped out a little and my Fiance parents are picking up the bar tab so we are in pretty good shape.

    Post # 59
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    None of the answers in the poll fit us; Fiance and I are paying for 2/3, my parents are contributing 1/3.  I am personally trying to contribute more though, so that my parents’ gift can go more towards buying a house.

    Post # 60
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We paid for about half and my mom paid for the other half (the venue and the dress). I knew my mom could only contribute 3k though and we definitely couldn’t afford much, so it ended up being about 3k each.

    I get discouraged too, OP. I’m going to a huge wedding soon where the parents of the bride are paying for everything, and I know it will be a little disheartening for me. I try not to be jealous, but I made so many sacrifices to be able have our wedding and even though I’m so happy we are married now, it’s hard to watch other people get the wedding of their dreams.

    Post # 61
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My Fiance & I are paying for our wedding 100%. We did receive a nice check from my aunt in the beginning of our engagement to help out with the wedding which was very generous, other than that we are paying for everything.

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