(Closed) Who’s Paying?

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My parents are paying for the reception, groom’s suit and some other miscellaneous costs.  FI’s parents are paying for the flowers and rehearsal dinner.  We’re covering the rest.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

We paid for everything ourselves.  (I just realized you were only asking about people who had family paying, oops.)

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My parents are paying for everything on the wedding day but the rehearsal dinner, groomsmen’s attire, and honeymoon, which his parents are paying for. We’re buying our own rings and paying for our own post-wedding hotel room.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

My parents gave us a budget of a certain amount and it covered about 3/4 of the reception.  They also paid for my dress.  My sister paid for our flowers.  His parents are paying for our photographer and rehearsal dinner.  The rest we paid for including honeymoon so we had about half of the festivities paid for.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

My parents gave us a budget in the beginning.  His parents are paying for the Rehearsal Dinner.

We covered our rings, honeymoon, stationary, and other misc items.  My parents are paying for all the bulky items i.e. food, photographer, etc.

 

 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We’re paying for most of the whole shebang, ceremony, reception, attire, rentals, catering, rehearsal dinner. We’re also paying for all our parents’ and the wedding party’s accomodations for the weekend.

My parents are paying for our beverages (just serving wine, beer, soda, water) and some random things.

His mom is paying for our cupcakes.

His dad has not offered to pay anything and we’re not expecting that he will.

My fiancé’s parents are divorced and quite past retirement age and both still need to work to make ends meet. They are both financially stressed. We realized this going into it and have not put any pressure on them to assist us, unless they have brought it up themselves.

My parents offered to help us out and we’ve taken them up on some of that amount, but we will not take all of it. 

We, like many others I think, are proud to be doing it mostly on our own, and debt free. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

C’s parents are paying for everything.  Without seeming too bitter or angry at my family, they say they cannot contribute.

We are more than blessed to have such kind and loving family on the groom’s side to help us into our new life together.  I’m eternally grateful to them that we can start our life debt free!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

ugh money issues. My parents paid for the bulk of eveything. His parents cover the rehearsal dinner and the tux rentals for the guys.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

FH’s parents are paying for the honeymoon, groom’s tux, and half the rehearsal dinner (FH is paying for the other half and my wedding band). I’m paying for 75% of the rest of it with money I’ve saved over the years specifically for the wedding, and my parents are helping me by offering a sum of money that will comprise the other 25%.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My parents are paying for the reception, his parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, we’re paying for the rings, hotel rooms, and honeymoon.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My parents paid for almost everything but the honeymoon in which my husband and I are now saving up for to do ourselves.  My now in-laws didn’t step up to the plate at all but that’s ok, we were grateful for the help we did receive!  We ended up not having an offical rehearsal dinner because of it but invited for everyone to come out to dinner with us with the understanding they would pay their own way and it worked great!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We should open this question to include those that are paying for their own wedding.  It may be really interesting to compare how much people spend (that other enormous thread) with who pays their own way.

We’re paying for nearly all of our wedding.  My mom gifted us 3K, and his parents are paying for the rehersal dinner.  We’ve got the rest, minus a honeymoon (I don’t want to spend a dime more than we have to.  We’ll take a vacation some other time — hopefully some day soon!).

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

We were incredibly lucky – my parents paid for the entire reception and a morning after brunch.  We tried to pitch in but they really wanted to do this for us.  His parents paid for the RH, but money issues meant the guestlist had to be controlled.  we paid for rings, honeymoon, gifts and a few odds and ends that i didn’t tell my parents about!  I am a good saver, so I don’t think anything much would have changed if we had to pay for it ourselves, but it was a wonderful and generous gift from my parents. 

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My FH’s parents insisted on having our ceremony/reception at an extravagant venue (against my wishes) and therefore are footing the bill. Now they are postponing it, and there’s nothing we can do/say because we aren’t shelling out the money. My parents, my fiance and I are paying for all the other expenses. If there’s one lesson I’ve learned, try and take care of things yourself. Otherwise you invite trouble if those that are paying aren’t being gracious about it. Sorry, this is obviously a sore subject for me!

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