(Closed) Who’s sitting at your head table?

posted 14 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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Newbee

do the spouses of the bridal party sit at the head table as well???

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Our head table will include me, Fiance, my parents, his parents, our sisters and their dates for a total of eight people. When I tell people this, the usual response is "That’s so nice of you to think of your wedding party and letting them sit with their dates." We’re going to spend so much of the wedding weekend with our wedding party that I’d rather sit with my family.

At another wedding I went to, they had a super long table with both wedding parties, both parents and grandparents. It was kind of cool and the grandparents loved it. 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

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Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We’re doing a sweetheart. MoChoJo: I think a lot of people end up picking that because it’s the only chance you have to be "alone" with your new husband/wife, without being constantly proded by guests.  It’s your "breather" time, and I’ve heard lots of people say that you spend a shockingly small amount of your wedding day with your new husband/wife, so this guarantees at least a few minutes of it.

Post # 21
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2008

my FH and i are chinese so if our parents were to sit in another table, it would most definately mean suicide for us.

as we only have ten seats at the main table, we have to be very selective about who sits where. both our parents will definately be sitting with us and of course our siblings and their spouses.

fortunately, we have a small family and is able to fit 10 including ourselves. our bridal party will be seated with the rest of the guest.

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are doing a sweetheart table.  The bridal party will get to sit amongst the guests with their husband/date.  I just want it to be "us"!

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

BA: well fi and i are very family-oriented people. we had both sides of our family there when he asked me to marry him. at the same time, although you may not spend a lot of alone time with each other on the actual day, i don’t even think it’s such a big deal. i’ll have the rest of my life to spend with him. the day of our wedding is a chance for family, friends, fi and i to celebrate this joyous occasion.  i don’t think it’ll be as much fun if it’s a sweet heart table. then again, i’m having a chinese banquet – family style – so a sweet heart table wouldn’t work anyway.

Post # 25
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Worker bee

We’re trying to decide between a sweetheart table and a head table with the wedding party. I’ve never seen a sweetheart table done before – but I like that it would give Dear Fiance and I a moment to unwind from a busy day, and our Wedding Party could sit  with their friends/family/dates

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

We are just sitting at a normal table (not a head table where people only sit on one side).  I always found the 1-sided head table to be very difficult for conversation.  I also really don’t like it when the bridal party sits with the newlyweds while the bridal partys’ spouses/dates have to sit someplace else.  I think it is rude and awkward to split up couples at a wedding – so if you haven’t made a decision, I’d consider letting your bridesmaids/groomsmen sit with their dates.  We are doing long, long, tables, – and I will have my sister sitting next to me, and my bridesmaid across from me with her spouse, etc.

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

we didn’t have a head table either… we sat at a table in the center of the room and both sets of parents as well as my grandparents (his are deceased) sat at the table with us. Our wedding party was free to sit wherever they liked – they all had spouses/dates and I didn’t want to have to make them sit separately.

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’m going to have one long table with Fiance, Bms and GMs. We’re only going to be sitting down during dinner and toast. After that we’ll be out on the floor dancing Most of the weddings I’ve been to that’s how it’s been and nobody really has a hard time (if their dates are part of the bridal party) sitting with people they don’t know for about a half hour or so. I did it and I think I’m one of the shyest person on earth! It was only for about an hour and I got over it. Ha ha

Post # 29
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Newbee

We’re sitting at a regular round table (like the rest of the guests) not a traditional head table. We’re having ourselves (obviously) and our 5 bridesmaids and groosman. Then we are sitting all of our bridal party dates at another table, and both of our parents and grandparents at another table.

Do whatever works for you… there are so many option!

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would like to do a King’s table, but my parents are divorced, so I don’t know how they’d feel about sitting next to each other.

We’ll probably just go with a sweeatheart table.

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

ok not tryng to offend anyone here, but i think head tables are a little outdated…

we’re having a sweetheart table and "allowing" our Bridal Party to sit with their own families – i hated having to sit and eat by myself stuck at a table with all the other wives or girlfriends of the GMs painfully trying to make small talk when i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and i hated sitting at the head table when my BF was sitting by himself stuck at a table of all the hubbies and BFs…  boring!

for us it just makes more sense for our Bridal Party to sit with their families/ SO/wife/husband

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