(Closed) Who’s smarter? You or your FI?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hmm.. we might both think that we are smarter.  We definitely have differing pasts.  I have a ton of education but he has that whole "raised in the school of hard knocks" thing going for him.  He is def street wise compared to me… and honestly, I’m not innocent Iona.  So, he is super super street smart I guess. 

So I guess we are really even.. we balance each other out.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

He would say me, I would say him. We’re both huge intellectuals. He certainly has a lot more specific domain knowledge than I do. He’s gotten himself to be an expert in a particular area despite being so young and as a result, got a job at a research firm at a higher level than he was qualified for and is also studying at MIT.

I on the other hand, don’t have as much of a direction yet (there was actual a mini-breakdown last night around this on my part), so I feel less "intelligent" since my brains aren’t applied to anything in particular. He would say my potential is higher and that I’m destined for a PhD. Also, I made the mistake of telling him the results of IQ test scores from when I was a kid and he’s never let go of it πŸ˜› I still think he’s smarter though, with all his publications and awesome job and stuff πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Hmmm… tough question! I think we both think we are pretty smart. I’m actually better at putting things together & figuring things out. He’s a really good researcher. I think we even each other out!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I think we’re both smarter in different areas. For example, I can’t do a math problem to save my life, but he seems to be lacking a lot of common sense skills πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I tend to think he’s waaay smarter than me, but he disagrees. SO I have to go with ES123 – we’re both smart but in different areas (and our smarts overlap in some, making us sometimes supersmart as a couple! lol).

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

There was a study a while ago, and I’ll look around for the article.  It says that the most effective couples have IQs that are within 10 points of each other.  There are a variety of reasons that this could be, but one might suspect that they would have similar vocabularies and can communicate on similar footing.

I know that when there is an intelligence difference, there can sometimes be a differential in confidence or power (though sometimes it works out just fine).  That’s not to say that we have to be intelligent in the same ways.  My strengths are definitely in verbal/emotional realms, and fiance is very math/engineering oriented.

Still, it happens to be that our IQs (which may or may not truly measure inteliigence–but that’s a whole other topic) are within 5 points of each other.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I like this question! We both are quite nerdy, but in very different ways. The more I think about it, the more we kind of make up an entire curriculum! I’m English, History, Art, and Philosophy. He’s Math, Science, and Languages. I’m all about the big picture, he’s all about how the little details go together. Sometimes I think the outside world may interpret my FI’s talents as being "smarter," but both of us know that we have our own strengths.

We actually took a class together in college and it was fun to see how different our brains really worked… he always got better test scores and I always got better grades on essays and projects but in the end we both got A’s. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think we are both pretty smart. He has more academic accomplishments than me (he’s in law school).

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think we are both smart, but in different ways.  Smart can be interpreted in many ways and has a lot of factors.  One thing he does do better than me is anything artistic =(  I am definitely on the lower/negative side of anything artistic

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Fiance is "Book smart" & I think I’m more "Street smart". In other words – he knows the geeky, nerdy, book smart answers in trivial pursuit & I know the "who sang this song?" "What animal did Britney dance with at the VMAs?" answers! πŸ˜€ haha

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My husband is way smarter than me.  People tend to think I’m the smarter one…I think b/c of my job, b/c I’m older, and b/c I’m more serious…he’s such a jokester that people are surprised when I tell them he is so much smarter than me…he’s street smart and book smart (he got into all the colleges he applied to – Dartmouth, Johns Hopkins, Columbia, etc…and he got a full scholarship to go to Duke).  He can figure out pretty much anything and he’s a great teacher…it is so attractive!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Haha what a fun question!

He likes to think he’s right all the time. And he has sometimes been known to carry on a conversation pretending to be informed about things he actually knows nothing about. So I like to remind him that I had a much higher SAT score. πŸ™‚ I’m the book-smart-law-school-etc one, but he’s the expert on figuring out how to get my diamond earring out of the drain, or figuring out how to get around in a foreign country, or all sorts of other practical things. πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think we’re both pretty smart, and in most cases we’re smart in the same general subjects (we work in the same field). We’d probably each claim we’re slightly smarter than the other, but in reality I think we have about the same level of inteligence.

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