Post # 1
Hey bees, I’m having a little trouble with my mom and Mother-In-Law planning a bridal shower for me. My Mother-In-Law doesnt really think she needs to help plan because she always thought that the mother of the bride is the one to plan it all, and I thought it needed to be planned between both of them. Well they had agreed to plan it together, but my mom has certain ideas about the shower, and my Mother-In-Law has other ideas like serving chicken salad, potato salad, things of that sort that are cheaper, and to have it at her church, while my mom wants to serve a plate with rice, mashed potatoes and chicken breast ($5 a plate) and have it in this big empy room where her office is located. Now, my mom isnt sure if she can pay it all herself which is why she was hoping her and Mother-In-Law could go half and half but Mother-In-Law doesnt have much money to put in so now I’m not sure if I will have a bridal shower. Mother-In-Law wont make me one herself, she isnt into all that stuff, so I dont know whats going to happen. Btw, there is only 50-60 people on the list. Who will be making your bridal shower? Do you know think my mom should make me one herself to her liking, or they should make it together even though they dont talk much?
Post # 3
My 4 bridesmaids threw my shower. It was a brunch which was a lot less expensive than lunch or dinner. 50-60 is a lot of guests for a shower! I think I had 12 at mine.
Post # 4
Do you have a wedding party? My bridesmaids threw mine, I think there are traditions that the bridesmaids do it but honestly in this day and age, it’s whatever works best for your situation. Why don’t you have your mom ask the BMs if they can kick in? If not, you might need to considering cutting your list down. Bridal showers are fun, no matter what kind of food is served 🙂
Post # 5
My sister is planning a lingerie shower and a couples shower. The couples shower will be hosted by my FSMIL
Post # 6
I had about 30 guests at mine and my Maid/Matron of Honor and my mom and sister threw it. We held it at my moms house so that cut down on costs. Maybe consider breaking it into 2 and having 2 showers. That way they each get to plan it they way they like. It sounds like your mom has is down so that would cut the guestlist and cut costs for her. If your Mother-In-Law will throw one maybe get your Maid/Matron of Honor or a relative to help her plan it and have you Fiance suggest the idea to her =)
Post # 7
I threw my sister’s bridal shower, as her maid of honor, and my mom helped out since I was still a poor college student at the time.
I agree with McFierce that splitting this into two showers would probably be a good idea. That way they can each do what they’d like and only be responsible for about half of the guests. I’m not sure I’ve ever been to a shower that had more than 15-20 people at it…so 50-60 seems like a LOT to me.
Post # 8
@Bostongrl25: Wow really? I thought I had a little amount of people since post people I know have had the showers consist of 200+ guest!
@MrsPeachMartini: I only have a Maid/Matron of Honor, which I’m honestly thinking about changing since she hasnt done anything at all. I like the idea of cutting down the list. Thanks!
@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: I wanted to have a couples shower, but I doubt anyone would want to throw that for us :/
@McFierce: This is actually not a bad idea, this way Mother-In-Law can have it her way, and my mom her way. I am going to talk to Fiance about this see what he thinks, and maybe he can talk to his mom about it. Thanks! 🙂
@LurkerBee: Lol then I guess the people where I live like having huge bridal showers because they dont go under 200 people. But I really like the idea of splitting the bridal shower into two, now its just to see if Mother-In-Law wants to do it.
Post # 9
@lioness_89: My MOH’s bridal shower was thrown by her Maid/Matron of Honor and us BMs. 50 people for a bridal shower? that is crazy! My Maid/Matron of Honor had 20-25 and she has a huge very close family.
Post # 10
My aunt and mom will probably do most of the plan. with my grandmas in the mix a bit.
Post # 11
I’m having two. Originally my mom and sisters were going to throw me one, and then Future Mother-In-Law and FSIL’s asked if they could have one in their hometown so more of their family can attend (my parents live 2 hours from them). There will probably be 30 at one and 20 at another (including family and friends). Both will have potluck lunches to help with costs and be held at facilities where there is no charge for room rental.
Could your mother ask your bridesmaids (if you’re having them) help with the shower? Even something like bringing a dish, arranging the games, etc. would help her a ton.
Post # 12
My mom and my sister/MOH threw mine.
Post # 13
My mom is technically throwing mine. She is busting her butt to pay for 99% of the shower, my soon to be Mother-In-Law doesnt have money, and both Mother and I dont think we should expect the (2) BM’s to pays for a venue that we picked out. its gonna be about $20ish a head.. at 65-75 people.
Post # 14
@drummerbride: When cutting the list down to only my moms guest list and my closest friends we still have a guest list of 37 but I need my mom to look it over see if there are people she doesnt care to invite so that it can cost less. My Maid/Matron of Honor doesnt do much (actually hasnt done anything) so there isnt much help there.
@Britt_RN: My aunts and grandmother plan to make me a shower but in Mexico since I have a lot of family over there, so if Mother-In-Law agrees to make me a shower I will end up having 3 of them!
@MadTownGirl: I only have a Maid/Matron of Honor who is always busy with something so I’m thinking about changing her, but my mom has some friends that are helping her with game ideas and are telling her things she can do to bring down the cost.
@coffeegal85: at this point I wish I had a sister to help my mom out.
@graygodess20: yeah I’ve heard Bridesmaid or Best Man complain before for having to help pay for the bridal shower, they say that thats not what they signed up for, but good luck to your mother paying for everything! 🙂 & hopefully your Bridesmaid or Best Man do help with something!
Post # 15
Usually it’s the mother or the bridal party. Mother-In-Law isn’t typically involved until the rehearsal dinner
Post # 16
My fiance’s Aunt and Grandmother are hosting/throwing my bridal shower. 🙂