Post # 1
I am early into my pregnancy but i started wondering about baby showers because the topic came up with my Future Mother-In-Law early this week. My Fiance and I’s familys have not met yet, we will not be married before baby arrives. She plans on throwing me a baby shower for her family and friends because they would really want to be part of that and have wanted to meet me.
However my mom, dad, and step dads families are all from way out of the area. So I didn’t even think of inviting them it would just be very strange. I guess I had assumed my mother would throw a shower for me for her family and my step dads family. I dont anticipate my dads family coming most of the women are very busy and cannot get down to the cities, and will mostly send cards. But I do plan on inviting dads family to the shower just as a gesture and all.
I guess my mom thinks it’s weird if she hosts the shower because she feels like its saying hey buy my kid gifts… and I get that. I guess I just don’t know who else would throw me a shower! My moms family is from 2.5 hours away from my mother, and 3 hrs from me. and step dads family is also about 45 from mom, 3 from moms family up north. So realistically, my mothers house is the best place because my moms two sisters could stay there with my two cousins, and step dads family can just make the drive for the shower. I only have about 4-5 friends I will invite whom only 2 know each other. My friends are not in a position to throw a shower as we are about 21. My best friend also has a little one of her own.
I thought maybe my mom could talk to my god mother/aunt about being the official host but we could have it at my moms because my mom offered to let someone have it there. But my aunt and I have had our differences and its caused minor arguments. My mom has a really good friend whom I’ve known since i was almost a baby and I’m sure she would love to help my mom throw me a shower though i dont know that she would neccessarily think to offer. And i think i would feel really weird asking her?
So who is throwing your shower?
Is it weird to have your mother throw you a shower?
Is it wrong to ask the long time famiily friend to help with the shower AT my moms? Maybe my mom can ask her to help not me?
Post # 4
Mom can definitely throw a shower! My mom is throwing mine and Mother-In-Law is acting as co-host of sorts but I didn’t ask her to throw one, I wouldn’t ask anyone to throw me one. It’s fairly common for a mom to throw a shower.. at least I’ve been to several thrown by mom!
Post # 5
I feel like for bridal showers, it’s generally considered a faux pas for the mom to host but that doesn’t seem to be the same for baby showers. I’ve been to several baby showers that were co-hosted by mom and friends/other relatives of the mom-to-be.
My shower was hosted by my Mother-In-Law and my mom helped with food.
Post # 6
My mom isn’t throwing mine but my Mother-In-Law is. Totally acceptable, IMO.
Post # 7
thanks ladies appreciate your help!!
Post # 8
I agree, for baby showers I dont see any problem with mom throwing it. Or anyone that matter (except the mom-to-be)
Post # 9
Maybe you can talk to your mom about wanting to have a shower with your side of the family and brain storm together. That way the 2 of you can come up with who throws the shower together.
My best friends are throwing my shower as my family is in California and I’m in Colorado. DH’s family is here but we don’t really interact with them so I would never expect Mother-In-Law to offer to throw our shower.
As an aside when I was getting married I mentioned to one of my aunts that maybe I could have a small shower while I was in town for a friend’s wedding so my mom who’s ill could be a part of it. And she jumped at the chance to throw me a shower. So… I mean if it’s family or really close friends why not ask them about who’s throwing the shower?
Post # 10
I hosted both of my sisters baby showers with our moms help! I don’t think it would be strange for your mom to host your shower! I think it’s sweet 🙂
Post # 11
See I dont have any sisters or anything my mom is actually going to be a young grandma I have two toddler brothers! So really my mom is the best person to throw it but she doesn’t want people to feel like shes asking them to buy her kid things. but I don’t really see it that way I think times have changed. I will have to talk to her about it.
Thanks ladies !
Post # 12
I haven’t experienced this myself yet, but for my friends that have had children, they usually have 2 (or more) showers… Their mom throws one, and their Mother-In-Law throws one… and sometimes friends or coworkers as well!
Post # 13
@PermaStudent: I guess I always assumed it was usually the moms! Mother-In-Law and mom.. and I plan on inviting a few friends to one hopefully hosted by my mom and maybe my aunt, and a few friends to the one by Future Mother-In-Law. since my long time HS friends are close to my mom and my co workers and stuff now are close to Future Mother-In-Law. i live an hour and half from my home town.
Post # 14
My sister threw mine this past weekend and my church is throwing the other one. I don’t think it’s weird if your mom throws you a shower or if you ask a friend for help. Often it is moms/siblings/family/friends who throw showers.
Post # 15
My sister and sister-in-law are OFFICIALLY throwing my two showers, with the help of my mom and mother-in-law. The one with my SIL/MIL is being held at my MIL’s house . . . I think this is kind of an old rule that people have pretty much tossed out. I have other friends whose moms are throwing showers. It’s really NBD.
Post # 16
My mom threw my shower! I didn’t think it was weird at all, I was just happy to have a shower at all, haha.